Is it ok that I can't Orgasm During Sex

[mkopec1608]

Hello-

I am 22 years old and I have never been able to orgasm during sex. I have no problem during masturbation or when I receive clitoral stimulation. My boyfriend and I have gotten into many arguments because I can not orgasm. He swears that every woman he has been with has never had this problem and I tried to explain to him that all woman are different. I feel so depressed because I can't give him the pleasure of knowing that he is pleasuring me. Which he totally does, the sex always feels amazing, I just can't prove that to him. I have tried to tell him that he should stimulate my clitoris while we have sex and I will orgasm. I am at an end.

There have only been about 4 times in my life that I have orgasmed. It has only been a shaking feeling and I did not release liquids. Is that normal?

We have been together for almost 4 years and he is the love of my life. I do not want to keep being stressed out and not being able to enjoy myself because I cant orgasm. Is this normal? Am I just not a good lover? Any suggestions.

[SeriousSam]

Jazz family.  I couldn't resist.  Though my advise still stands.  LOL

[KATE535]

I'm liking the analogy Sam !!

[SeriousSam]

Every womens body is different to some degree, it is like playing a musical instument-a sax if you will!  They are all, in theory, played the same way but experience would show that each one desrves respect, a different touch in how its a handled to make music.  He needs to quit comparing you to every other sax he's had and just learn better how to relax and enjoy the sax he has now and practice until the music is sweeter!

[KATE535]

First of all it is ok. He should not be angry with you if that's how you are. He should respect and love you as you are. You deserve that to say the least.
I orgasm regularly, although sometimes it's harder to reach than other times.
Working you with his hands and tongue is the best way it bring it out, in my experience, when he eventually enters you. So you are right to emphasise he should work your clitoris first (this is what I'm referring to when I say it is easier to reach your spot). Tell him it will drastically improve your chances of orgasm. If he really works you up it wont take very long when he penetrates you to hit your spot.
Hope that helps ;-)

[SeriousSam]

First if your having fun that is all that is important.  Sometimes the hardier you try to grab onto something, the more it eludes you.  When you quit trying so hard  I think you will find it.

[crazyhorze]

for you to fully satisfy and enjoy sex to the fullest, you have to have an orgasm. it is a feeling that you can't describe. if you ever had an orgasm during sex before, man you wouldn't want to miss it every sex.....

[SixStringer]

You sound normal, and if your boyfriend would orally stimulate you, you probably could have an orgasm before the p-v intercourse.  It sounds like you are enjoying yourself anyway, but to make him a believer, he should orally work on your clitoris.  Then you could give him a ** or go to intercourse.  As you say, all women are not the same.  Hopefully, you can get him to go with what you need.