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My bf says that shemale porn is the only porn that gets him off.. Is he gay??

I have been with my bf for a lil over 2 years. He moved in almost a year ago and around that time he came to me and told me about this. He said that he came across it 8 or so years ago and since then it's the only porn that gets him off.  He likes man with a shemale porn. He also asked if I'd be open to a 3some with he and one. He claims he has never been with one. He did say that he knew that if he had that experience he'd prob have an itch 4 it from then on. He has a shemale porn star that he's googly eyed over. He knows everything about he/she city, age, history. I told him that I honestly wasn't comfortable with all of that. I told him that in no way am I judging him. But, that I was not ok with that personally. He automatically said that he was just telling me those so that I'd think he was straight kinky. But, I'm not that stupid. I let it go at the time bc I didn't want to upset him. He spends all day in the garage/man cave on his tablet and playstation. He constantly clears his tablet history. But, recently he was on his playstation with me in the room and was going to enter a web address. Well, his history popped up and a huge list of shemale sites consumed it. Our sex life is beyond dull. This has been an issue since b4 the shemale secret came out. We have sex maybe once a week. All about him getting a quick fix. He doesn't even look at Me. He wants me play with his booty. I'm 140lbs, late 20s and take care of myself. So, the whole maybe U have let yourself go is not the answer here. I recently had a heart to heart with him (well tried). Anyways, I told him my concerns with our sex life and his shemale desires. He just stormed out of the room literally lol. I'm not judging him or anyone else. I just don't want to be someone's front. And, honestly that's how I see myself in this situation. Am I overreacting? In need of advice.. Plz help
     Sincerely,
          Hopelessinhouston
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He's a nut. Try to find someone else, I know you can do better. You'll never be happy in this relationship
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You're very welcome.
I'm really sorry you're going through this. I can't even imagine what it must be like. I think your boyfriend could be gay too. I understand men can be curious and want to look at things on the internet. If they're not interested then they move on and don't watch it again. Your boyfriend seems to really like this kind of porn though and it's causing a huge problem in your relationship. On top of him not working. There are other men out there so you may want to think about moving on.
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Thank U soo much for your input. He quit his job as soon as he moved in grrr. Hes a compulsive liar. His stories change daily on any and everything. I have never been around someone like this honestly. The shemale situation just puts the icing on the cake. I'm very open sexually. And, that's prob why he shared his shemale desires with Me. But, I truly feel that is leaning towards being gay. Which, there's nothing wrong with. I just don't want to go thru soo much and the person to be gay. This has been tough. I dream of a healthy relationship.. One day lol
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If the two of you had a great sex life I would say to try and work on the relationship. He does'nt even look at you during sex though and to me that's a big reg flag.
He sounds kind of irresponsible if he's spending the day in his man cave. Does he even work?
He's asking for a threesome with a shemale. Most men, if they wanted a threesome, would ask for another woman in the bedroom.
Yes, I do think he's either gay or bisexual and it does'nt sound like it's going to change any time soon. It's up to you to end the relationship or not. If it me, he would have already been gone. Just my opinion.
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Hello,
Keep in mind that every person has his own needs , wantings and preferences. There is a unique sexual id. In fact I believe that there is an id for every human being. I would suggest a visit to a sexologist so he could estimate and advise your partner and then you as a couple! Take care
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