Nervous during sexual activity

[auziez]

Well, basically whenver i start to have a slow kind of start to a sexual activity i find that i start getting really weak and my heart rate goes up...its probobly nerves, but, the thing is, i love being sexual and love the activity, why then do i get nervous about it?

For example, usually it happens in this situation but...
me and my friend watched a movie and under the blanket she started to touch my leg, i got turned onn pretty quick, and was enjoying it, but then all of a sudden (shortly after) my heart rate starts going up, and you can nearly hear my heart from the outside (thump, thump), and my body starts feeling really weird and numb..i could tell that she knew...and i didnt want that to happen cause i was enjoying things and didnt want her to think that i was scared or nervous...Ive done this plenty of times, but WHY cant my body handle it?
I used to shake,  but now I just have to resist it.

Is their medication i can take? or something that could slow my heart? I ahte what is happening and sometimes it ruins it. please help

[auziez]

okay well im 16, so id say im young and pretty new to these things. and this kind of thing only happens during sexual activities, i do get really excited for my job interview but i mean its not even half as bad as the sexual stuff. (along with strangers, i might feel weird but i dont get the same feeling)..however i guess i should say that my hand/nose/feet are usually colder than the rest of my body if that helps.

***** that i have to be the one dealing with it! haha.
i have, at the start its worse but during the whole thing its still same thing, it *****,
But for the movies, i have had this happen to me during them, But i think it was more like fear of someone finding out what i was doing or something, cause when my dad walked into the room once (the computer screen couldnt be seen) he started to question what i was doing and when i walked out of the room i nearly fell down my legs were so weak from fear, it was terrible. (this was kind of the same feeling i get during sexual activities, tho maybe not that bad)

So, have you gotten better then?

[EatYourVeg]

Sounds like a good old fasioned "sex flush" . People handles nerves in different ways, and your body just seems to handle this sort of pressure badly!

Have actually had sex before? I was the exact same way when I first started getting 'close' to partners.


Do you feel the same way when / if you have ever watched pornographic movies? x

[thedocman]

That just sound like plain old nerves and anxiety over what may or may not happen, ovcoarse there are drugs out there that slow down ones heart rate. Is it only when you are around Woman this problem happens? do you find it also happens if you are in a social situation i.e in strangers companys or busy places? It also depends what age you are, if you are still pretty young then this nervousnes around girls is normal, youre subconcious mind ill be working overtime trying hard to please, to be cool, to impress, when you only find yourself in pain. I mean everyone gets nervous around Woman if they are not completly comfortable with them yet, I sudjest when these episodes then you need to try take youre mind away from what is happening and go with the flow, be happy and breath and try not let nervous energy over ride youre senses, apart from that i wouldnt worry about it unless you do have a heart problem, if you find this happening with other things unrelated to when you are with a girl then there is no harm in seeing your GP for a more thorough medical oppinion

[anxious_self]

Why don't you go to the doctor and get that checked...