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No Sex drive

I am 26 yrs old and i have been with my boyfriend for 8 yrs. We have 2 kids together and i love him with all i have but when it come to anything sexual it turns my stomach. When he kisses me or gives me oral sex i feel like vomiting , i hold my breath and try to think about others things while we are having intercourse to keep from pushing him off me. I cover my head with the pillows so he cant see the look on my face. I know that i love him and we enjoy each other company, but when it comes to sex i just want to vomit. Nothing he does turns me on and he trys a lot of things. We use to have sex all the time any and everywhere now i have to prepare myself to have sex with him, its sad i have to give myself a pep talk before having sex, telling myself it will be over soon, just get it over with so i dont have to here his mouth.He can tell that i dont enjoy it anymore he says it makes him feel like he is forcing me when in a way i a forcing myself. Help please i just want to enjoy sex with my man agian.
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Yes i do love him we have been together for 8 yrs , trust me if i wasnt in love with him i would have no problem getting rid of him, i get rid of people everyday!!! Thanks for your comments, but you must not have children, i 3 that are close in age and the problem with our sex life began after my last child. I would give up anything for him, i just dont like sex anymore, really never cared for it. It just does nothing for me, never has really been anything to me, i personally dont like to be touched or have people in my 3 feet of personal space. Thanks for your advice do you have any on how i can get a sex drive since i have never had one, and Yes i have had an orgasam but it pretty much down hill after that.
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Has this happened since having children with him? If so, I can relate!
My former partner and I had a normal intimate realtionship...... before I had my first child with him. I can say it was never the same again after that. I too did not like sex and whilst it was happening I couldn't wait for it to be over. I thought perhaps I'm not a sexual person. I was convinced it was my issue - that I just didn't like sex, at all.
He wasn't offended by this as he saw the change in my interest levels in sex after being pregnant etc.
But as well as it not feeling good, it turned on me a lot too.
Eventually I told myself I could allow once a week - to keep him satisfied - but I was not prepared to allow more because it was something I hated.

Over the years I loved him but didn't 'want' him sexually at all.

In my case - our relationship didn't last. I think now perhaps it was all because HE didn't turn me on - HE wasn't the sort of man who could bring that out in me. And I know this now because I am with someone else who for the last year has made me so sexual!!! I love being intimate with him - I get horny when his body is close to mine and also when we kiss. I never knew I had it in me to feel so want for someone. I think you have to feel that passion and it comes from your partner. You can't go on pretending this man gives you everything you need because I'm sorry to say but he clearly doesn't and clearly can't. Otherwise you will go on like this......

I believe it is possible to find your perfect match - you know - the one who can bring out the fire in you. You have it, but the right person has to find it.

I hope you find happiness soon!
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this could be due to hormonal imbalance. you can use steroids for it under the supervision of a physician
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