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Masturbating while flacid
I am in need of some help with a seemingly uncommon masturbating issue. When I was 2 or 3 I stumbled upon my ability to masturbate, long before I had a grasp on what it was. Since then, I developed a relatively serious addiction to it (I am 19 now), and I am trying to break the habit. I am not all that worried about the addiction itself, but because I started so young I couldn't get an erection, I would just lay on top of my flaccid penis and apply pressure. I have only recently realized that the fact that I still do that is concerning, and I have tried to masturbate like most guys do but I can't, it is actually really painful. It is starting to seem like I might have broken my ability to masturbate like a normal person and I am afraid for what this will look like in my future sex life (I am a virgin) does anyone have any helpful thoughts?
So when you are 2 or 3, it's not actually masturbation. It's not sexual, and it's quite common for boys to do this. It just feels good, much like getting your back scratched or your feet rubbed.
Are you doing this now to ejaculation?
There is no such thing as "normal masturbation". Everyone does it differently. Some women sort of "hump" a pillow, some use toys, some use fingers. Some like clitoral stimulation, some prefer stimulation of the g-spot.
Men are the same - some use hands, some use toys, some sort of "hump" a pillow or the mattress, or just do what you do - this is definitely not a one size fits all kind of thing.
Have you tried other things? Toys? Using hands? Lube? Maybe they'll work, maybe they won't. Whatever happens with your masturbation, it's all very different than actual sex. There are so many different sensations and feelings - I wouldn't worry at all.
When you say addiction - what do you mean by that? Are you doing this multiple times a day? Are you having negative consequences? Is it interfering in your daily activities?
Are you doing this now to ejaculation?
There is no such thing as "normal masturbation". Everyone does it differently. Some women sort of "hump" a pillow, some use toys, some use fingers. Some like clitoral stimulation, some prefer stimulation of the g-spot.
Men are the same - some use hands, some use toys, some sort of "hump" a pillow or the mattress, or just do what you do - this is definitely not a one size fits all kind of thing.
Have you tried other things? Toys? Using hands? Lube? Maybe they'll work, maybe they won't. Whatever happens with your masturbation, it's all very different than actual sex. There are so many different sensations and feelings - I wouldn't worry at all.
When you say addiction - what do you mean by that? Are you doing this multiple times a day? Are you having negative consequences? Is it interfering in your daily activities?
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