Online porn - how much is too much?

[icequeen81]

This is crazy. I truly started falling for my boyfriend of 8 months... we're even looking for a place together...but.... I feel he's obsessed with getting off. If I spend a weekend with him he does it 2-3 times a day (perhaps more??) and sometimes wakes me up in bed while he's doing it under the sheets... he sometimes makes jokes about washing the sheets! He was even doing this while we were visiting his friends/family overnight! They would ask me where he was and it's sad because I have to lie for him (oh he has a stomach ache, that's why he's in the bathroom AGAIN for 20 mins)

I don't get it! We have great sex and sometimes I want to he and he looks at the clock and says "good night hun" and an hour later is jerking it! WTF! Sometimes I poke him and he runs into the bathroom or shower to finish. So stupid - like I want to cuddle/kiss after that!!! And he's all "what's wrong?"

I am so hurt and don't know what to do. Part of me is like "hey, I do it too" But when I am alone/miss being touched....He knows this... but I only do it a few times a month or when I am away from him a lot. I have dated over 12 men and never had this issue (this intense at least) He's only had 2 serious relationships and the longest was 7 months (I think I can see why!)
I know he works a lot and wants to release, and be less stressed, I am trying to understand.... but when is too much too much!??!! Should I say something!? I think it's ruining things.... I don't want to have to go through the numbers in my head when I reach for him, I want to want him not worry about doing him 6 times, 10 times, whatever to keep him from masturbating!

[pittfan17]

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[bailyboo]

Sorry pushed post button by accident and didn't finish what I wanted to say. The ultimatum would be for him to slowly cut back on it and if he doesn't I'd leave him. Especially because its hurting u and he does't care he's ruining ur relationship.  But I really think he needs some counselling.  How does he make it through a day of work without jerking it?  God forbid he had to go somewhere for work or a family event and it was for an extended period of time what would he do if he couldn't touch himself. I also hope he doesn't get caught by the police doing it somewhere he's not suppose to do it what then?     I hope all works out for u and that u are more important then his penis is to him.

[bailyboo]

Icequeen I feel very sorry for u. It sounds like ur boyfriend really has a problem,it's not normal what he is doing....I could see him doing maybe once or twice a day but he's going to the extreme. The other reason I think its a real issue is that u have to lie for him to cover it up, it's like ur covering for a drug addict. Yes u should say something to him I think he needs some counselling if I was with him I'd give him an ultimatum

[AnnieBrooke]

Honey, like any addiction, the person with the addiction has to want to stop.  You can't "keep him from masturbating."  He's the one with the addiction.