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Oral Sex & Vulva/Vaginal Health
My girlfriend and I are really enjoying our relationship so far (early days at 6 months, but the time keeps flying). Our sex life has been healthy, respectful, fun and satisfying for both of us.
I particularly want to experiment more with how I give her oral, but at the moment I am only focusing on the clitoris (fortunately a good place to start)
My situation is, unlike my previous sexual encounters, my girlfriend:
1. Sometimes has skin/smegma build up in the vulva area, that I struggle to clean with a wet wipe (unusual since she rinses it daily)
2. Frequently has thick white discharge pooled near the vaginal opening.
I’m not put off by the discharge, I appreciate it’s role in her health. While I’m comfortable with intercourse and using fingers, it’s not my preference to put my tongue in the discharge nor use my fingers for anything else without a clean.
My questions are:
1. Is there a correct way to clean to prevent Smegma build up (bearing in mind she already has a method of cleaning her vulva)?
2. Is this pooling of discharge at the Vagina normal, and are my preferences just unfortunate?
3. Is there a way to let the discharge out prior to sex, without affecting her vaginal oh balance/health?
4. If this discharge is abnormal, what might we do about it?
Thanks :)
I particularly want to experiment more with how I give her oral, but at the moment I am only focusing on the clitoris (fortunately a good place to start)
My situation is, unlike my previous sexual encounters, my girlfriend:
1. Sometimes has skin/smegma build up in the vulva area, that I struggle to clean with a wet wipe (unusual since she rinses it daily)
2. Frequently has thick white discharge pooled near the vaginal opening.
I’m not put off by the discharge, I appreciate it’s role in her health. While I’m comfortable with intercourse and using fingers, it’s not my preference to put my tongue in the discharge nor use my fingers for anything else without a clean.
My questions are:
1. Is there a correct way to clean to prevent Smegma build up (bearing in mind she already has a method of cleaning her vulva)?
2. Is this pooling of discharge at the Vagina normal, and are my preferences just unfortunate?
3. Is there a way to let the discharge out prior to sex, without affecting her vaginal oh balance/health?
4. If this discharge is abnormal, what might we do about it?
Thanks :)
So my first question is does she know you feel this way, and that you've found this smegma and discharge?
1. Is there a correct way to clean to prevent Smegma build up (bearing in mind she already has a method of cleaning her vulva)?
My first thought is are we sure it's smegma and not toilet paper residue? Often, just rinsing isn't enough to get rid of either, and she may need to get a washcloth and actually wipe it off.
2. Is this pooling of discharge at the Vagina normal, and are my preferences just unfortunate?
It could be normal. Does it have an odor?
It might be her arousal. Does she feel really wet? You probably don't see her when she's not aroused, so you don't have a lot of room for comparison or a good frame of reference, but she might just be really well lubricated.
Do you see it more at different times of the month? It might have to do with her hormones and her cycle.
3. Is there a way to let the discharge out prior to sex, without affecting her vaginal oh balance/health?
Wet a washcloth, no soap, and just wipe it.
4. If this discharge is abnormal, what might we do about it?
Well, she needs to see her doctor. She can get checked out for infections like yeast or bacterial vaginosis, or STIs.
1. Is there a correct way to clean to prevent Smegma build up (bearing in mind she already has a method of cleaning her vulva)?
My first thought is are we sure it's smegma and not toilet paper residue? Often, just rinsing isn't enough to get rid of either, and she may need to get a washcloth and actually wipe it off.
2. Is this pooling of discharge at the Vagina normal, and are my preferences just unfortunate?
It could be normal. Does it have an odor?
It might be her arousal. Does she feel really wet? You probably don't see her when she's not aroused, so you don't have a lot of room for comparison or a good frame of reference, but she might just be really well lubricated.
Do you see it more at different times of the month? It might have to do with her hormones and her cycle.
3. Is there a way to let the discharge out prior to sex, without affecting her vaginal oh balance/health?
Wet a washcloth, no soap, and just wipe it.
4. If this discharge is abnormal, what might we do about it?
Well, she needs to see her doctor. She can get checked out for infections like yeast or bacterial vaginosis, or STIs.
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Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
