Orgasm and cramps

[Dwoman_]

I'm a female. Whenever i have an orgasm either from masturbating or from sex i always get a cramp like feeling in my lower abdomen.

Also i have been having painful sex of late but doesn't occur when it's missionary but any other positions hurts in my lower abdomen. And this makes sex boring for i and my boyfriend

Lastly i have been battling with yest infection. Like i get irritation after sex, oral sex and sometimes before my period. And i keep using a cream based treatment but it seems to come back when I stop using it.

Note: i didn't use to have these issues until last year when I started having sex again after a long while

I don't know if the pain is because of the infection or something else. I'm really worried it might affect child bearing. Cuz when I googled it i was terrified at the results..... please i need help

[auntiejessi]

You need to see a doctor.

This could be PID, a sexually transmitted infection, an ovarian cyst, endometriosis, etc - all the things that Dadz listed.

But since it could be an STI, you really need to see a doctor and get it checked as soon as possible. You are self-treating for yeast? Or was that prescribed after being tested?

Stop using the cream, and see your doctor. Let us know what happens.

[Dwoman_]

Okay sure i will.... thanks:)

[Dadz1990]

Hi,

Hope I can help. But without direct and physical investigations it’s next to impossible to offer any real insite.

Abdominal pain and painful sex could be any number of things (none of which are normal though, or at least something you shouldn’t have to live with)

Perhaps it will help me help you, if you gave me a detailed insight into your past: what happened around the time you noticed this. Any unprotected sex? Any tests done?

This could be.
IBS
Constipation
Muscle strain
UTI
STI (PiD)
Anxiety/trauma
Ovirian Cysts

To name just a few.

[Dwoman_]

Well after my last relationship which we normally have unprotected sex....i hadn't had sex with anyone for a year until my resent relationship which i felt was okay to have unprotected sex since either of the both of us hadn't had sex in over a year+. But that was when the pain started. ( I never had any pain in my last relationship). i thought it was because it's been a long while that causes the pain but it's been another year in my now relationship and it's still there. I haven't seen a doc about it cause we don't have a gynecologist in my local hospital and can't afford for the big ones. Also i have been struggling emotional and mentally due to school and family issues so I'm pretty much in and out of depression most of the time. Also transiting into a new stage in my life where i have to be independent and all also causing some anxiety.

I hope this information is enough. If you need more i willing to provide..... thanks

[Dadz1990]

I’m so so sorry to here of your depression. School and family issues.

It sounds like I’m the past and during you have had unprotected sex and no testing.

I’d be inclined to go down that route first. I’m in the UK but my understanding is your the USA? If so I’m sure I read that STI testing is state funded so is very low cost (or even free)

It’s still a very low chance this is a STI has any of your partners recently had any symptoms, do you trust them to tell you if they have?

I really don’t know what’s going on and I doubt you’ll find anyone online that can give you the answers you need.

Your body is telling you something is wrong please don’t ignore that. Find a way to get professional testing done please.

Now back to the depression. I have suffered with anxiety and depression myself. Please get help for this (it could be what’s causing your symptoms too by the way).

Good luck and keep us updated. We are with you every step of the way

[Dwoman_]

Thank you very much.....I'm actually in Africa (Nigerian) and I'm not to sure if the government hospitals around covers that. And the private ones are quite costly

Also for my partner i spoke with him about it and he seems really fine though i think he should also check himself out. I will try and see a doctor for it soon and i will update you guys on what's happening.

Also about my mental health. I'm trying in that area by getting a hobby and also exercising. Saw a post on here (advice) about getting a journal and write your thoughts down which i want to implement as well.

[Dadz1990]

Apologies for guessing your nationality! Glad to see you are working through your depression. Good work. Sign of a strong person who can do that themselves without help! Proud of you keep it up.

The more i read your post the less likely I think this is a STI, I just can’t see it been the most likely cause HOWEVER I still stand by my plan to see a doctor and I bet they do tests for that first.

Good luck. I understand it’s not easy for you to get to a doctors, but I honestly think it’s the only way forward for you. Wish I had another way to sort this out.

[Dadz1990]

Sorry just a quick amendment. Your thrush? Has that ever been confirmed as thrush.

Recurring thrush in women is more often than not something not to worry about.

But it can be a sign of diabetes and I guess diabetes can cause your other symptoms.

I doubt it but it’s something to consider checking for.

[Dwoman_]

Thanks so much for the support.... even though I'm really terrified. You don't have to apologies about guessing. I'm glad to have someone to talk to about this.

Same here i don't think is an STI too but more likely to be an IBS because i have been having it's symptoms. Even right now I'm constipated and a few weeks back i had diarrhoea. And gassing and bloating is like a norm for me.

About the thrust.....i have had like two serious case in the past year but others are me just treating the mild symptoms before it gets out of hand... But it seems to be occuring a lot often which is beginning to stress me out as well.

[Dadz1990]

“The thrush” may be key to this by the way. Im not convinced it is thrush and if you haven’t been swabbed and checked for thrush while active it could be something else. Either way.

My last bit of advice. don’t be terrified, whatever it is will be curable and manageable.

Keep up the good work in managing your mind, you are doing great.

But please find a doctor to examine you.