Not sure if this is this is the right place to be posting this, but I was hoping to get some help about female orgasm/masturbation. I have never "felt the tinglies" of an orgasm from sex, but I think I have from masturbation. But I can't find much help online for how I masturbate. To cut to the chase it's basically just rubbing up against a chair or some hard surface I can kinda spread my legs over :/ I think I've orgasmed from this (felt my"walls" contracting and my back will kinda ripple with the feeling). However, in recent years I've had trouble doing even this by myself (still feels good, but no "ripple"). I'm in my early twenties so I would't think age would be a problem (even though I've been rub mastubating since like 1st grade). I'm not even sure exactly what it is I'm rubbing so I haven't been able to figure out how to do it laying down (basically I always have to use a chair, annoying). I have tried fingering myself, but this has never worked. Feels nice, but never got me close at all. Same with trying to rub my clit (I'm not actually sure where it is or how to rub it right, always kinda hurts when I rub to hard or upwards and when I gentle caress it really doesn't do much to light the spark. I've gone at it for long time periods trying to see, but not anything crazy). When I have sex with my boyfriend, it feels good, but I've never reached any climax point. It'll feel good for a bit but then he'll have to stop or else he'll get too far. We've done lots of positions (I've tried experimenting) but nothing really seems to work. One position will feel good one time, then I'll basically feel nothing the next time. It's very frustrating and I feel I have a lot of pent up sexual energy from it. At this point I want sex way more often and am much needier than my boyfriend. He has tried even "going down" on me and again, it feels fine, but nothing mind-blowing :/ I really want to be able to understand better how exactly I'm masturbating when I rub, and how to transfer this to the bedroom, I want to share this experience with my boyfriend. If anyone has any help or tips (again, I've googled my fair share of articles and tried lots, but none seem to cover the "how to rub your clit if it doesn't feel good and hurts when you try with your hand and where it is exactly" problem and no one really talks about rubbing against chairs or whatever and what it is I'm doing so I can transfer that over to the bed (literally, chairs are annoying...)). If anyone has advice or wants to offer help I'd greatly appreciate it.