In November was going out for a few weeks with my ex-girlfriend, but we broke up because she had lied to me and almost certainly been cheating on me. After about a month of no contact, we got in touch again, she pleaded with me to believe she hadn't cheated etc and I started seeing and sleeping with her again. In March, she told me she had been tested for STDs etc and was all clear, and that she would go on the pill. I wasn't sure about trusting her to take it, but she told me condoms hurt her (sounds like a trick). She returned to her home country china about 3 weeks ago.
I decided to get an STD/STI check myself and was positive for Chlamydia (the other results are still pending), so obviously I was furious because I realised she had been sleeping with someone else again ( I'm an idiot,I know) and decided not to speak to her again. Then a day later she told me she is pregnant, and has been for about 2 weeks - she says the pill wasn't effective because she was taking some other medication which made it ineffective...
Tbh I don't want a child with a girl who, basically, is a *****. On top of that she lives in China, we are both only 21 and totally incapable of caring for a child (she would have to do it alone anyway, unless I moved over there), and we are both doing degrees in different countries.
To be honest, I know it sounds cold, but I want her to have an abortion. is it right for me to try to ask this of her?
If she says no to this, is it wrong for me to not want to be involved with her (or this child) at all in future? I want to do the right thing, but I feel this is so unfair on me.
Thanks...