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Sex and emotions don't mix well

As most young adults have, I've hooked up more than once. And sex is usually ok. I can tell that I'm not feeling the same thing my partner is but that's not really a huge issue for me. The issue comes when I'm in a relationship. When I have sex in a relationship I feel near nothing. It's hard on my relationships because more often than not I avoid sexual contact completely. I've even moved from having a regular hookup to dating the guy, and all sexual contact just becomes uncomfortable. I'm attracted to the guys I date so I know that's not the issue. It just seems like once I add emotion into the equation sex just doesn't seem appealing. I want to have sex with my bf but once the act starts, I lose all interest.
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To create interest in sex, you can visit doctor to find out whether there is a hormonal problem. If it is okay, you may do female deer exercise. This will be a therapy as well as self pleasure. You may also practice kegel exercises. There is another exercise ,-circulating energy around, microcosmic orbit. Google these phrases to get details of the exercises. This will create a natural urge for sex.
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This may be a temporary situation that will resolve itself in time.  In the meantime, don't force the issue.  Since you don't have any interest in sex with a boyfriend, avoid having intercourse for now.  Instead, if you have feelings for him, give him a slow, lubricated handjob so that he will be satisfied.    
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