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Sex is getting worse??

So my boyfriend and I have been having sex for about four months. It was the first time for each of us and he's sixteen and I'm seventeen. We both used to really enjoy sex, but lately it feels like the sensitivity or sensations I feel when we're having sex are slowly becoming less intense. In fact the sex is getting worse, so much that at the most (if I can feel anything) the word I would use to describe it is 'nice'. He claims it feels the same for him ad it always did, but he doesn't seem to be enjoying it as much; he also isn't as hard as he used to get, he's hard enough for sex but it will either go down or never get any harder. We don't see eachother all that often so we pretty much have sex everytime we see eachother. This is just so frustrating. We used to have pretty good sex, I mean he never got me off, and I still haven't (mind you I can't even get myself off) but it used to feel really good. He tells me these days he gets harder watching porn then when he's with me, but that when he watches porn he hasn't touched himself for a few days. When we don't do it for a while and he doesn't touch himself for a few days he gets a lot harder but we both want it a lot so that doesn't really work for us. Should the amount we do it affect his errection? However even when he's super hard it still doesn't really help what I can feel during sex. Sorry for the super long post but there are obviously a few issues here, I really would appreciate any advice. Thanks :)
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3110545 tn?1343308648
i think it's not a physical issue the sex just lost a bit of it's mystery for both of you so try spicing things up a bit like role playing for example ...
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Hi, ok its time for you both to take a sexual break, then to much of the same thing get boring for your brains and sences, your both young, try finding some books on foreplay and sexual postions and give them a good read why your taken a break, you may find it will recharge your batterys.
OK for him, porn and masterbating, so this sounds like he now has porn enduced ED, and needs to take an 8 week break from masterbating, sex and the porn has to go for good, some of this is down to what is done by the hand is remembered by the brain.
There was or is a very good magazine called Forum, see if you can find some of the really old ones, and these go back to the 1970s, so from then tell the 1980s were about the best if you can find some, lots of reading and you will find lots of answers.
Good Luck
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Thankyou!! This really helps. But any tips on how to have the conversation with him where I ask him to stop it for a while. I mean sex will be easy to talk about, but how can I convince him to stop masturbating and watching porn, especially for 8 weeks, that might be a bit hard for a guy right?
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Thankyou!! This really helps. But any tips on how to have the conversation with him where I ask him to stop it for a while. I mean sex will be easy to talk about, but how can I convince him to stop masturbating and watching porn, especially for 8 weeks, that might be a bit hard for a guy right?
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Just letting you know that the porn is going for good. He was really great about the whole thing and said that he would rather be able to please me and have better sex than have the porn and masturbating all the time. Thankyou for your advice, I've already done copious amounts of reading, some of it I think will make our relationship a whole lot better and hopefully make it last a long while. I didn't realise how much porn could affect our relationship. I'm so thankful for your advice.
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Just letting you know that the porn is going for good. He was really great about the whole thing and said that he would rather be able to please me and have better sex than have the porn and masturbating all the time. Thankyou for your advice, I've already done copious amounts of reading, some of it I think will make our relationship a whole lot better and hopefully make it last a long while. I didn't realise how much porn could affect our relationship. I'm so thankful for your advice.
139792 tn?1498585650
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Google Male Deer exercise and female deer exercise. It can be used as a foreplay, helping each other to do the exercise. You both may learn kegel exercise and kegel each other to enhance your sexual pleasure. If you can learn taoist yoga and kundalini yoga, you can becomes masters in sexual maneuverings A book '100 days practice to have long life, and good sex by DrEricson steven Yydelove. There may be some error in the book's title and the author's name. Google it and find out correct names.
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