Too small for sex? Tension problems.

[YuuiSensei]

I'm 18 years old and I've been sexually active for six months.

For a while, I've been having issues when I have sex with my boyfriend. He is very well-endowed and a very understanding person. I'm small for my age, in every sense of the word.

After only having sex for a couple of minutes, if we get that far, we typically try to switch positions and by the time we get that far, I've tightened up enough that no amount of lubricant can help. I trust him completely and he is very kind and understanding of the situation, although it is frustrating for the both of us.

Coupled with some nerve issues that keep me from becoming sexually aroused, this is a big issue.

Any ideas on what this could be or what I should do?

[SeriousSam]

I gather that you want sex?  If so this is what you do at first, if your boyfriend really cares enough about you to show restrain?

Well then.. What you need to do is find a "cuddle position" where you guys can snuggle together after penetration without moving.  If you like while he is inside of you can try tightening and loosening up but..

Ideally what i would suggest is just trying to relax and fall asleep together like that.

[sweetpea03]

Don't push it, if you don't feel like you are ready for sex, then don't do it. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex yet and just waiting to do it. Many people do. You can do other things with your boyfriend. The vagina is capable of handling a lot, so if you are relaxed enough/turned on enough, everything should be fine. Good luck