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Unable to keep erection

Me and my b/f have been together 8 almost 9 yrs and for the first 5/6 yrs sex was fine but now it's like gotten really weird we can be doing for-play and I will start getting wet and he will be hard as ever then right as soon as I get off he goes limp he'll start rubbing himself on me and it'll get back hard last maybe 5 min if I'm lucky and he is done rolls over ready for bed blah blah blah anyway so the same thing happened recently messing around he was hard I got off he went limp and them he decided he wanted anal well I said ok "very very very rarely does this happen" anyway he attempts to put it in 1 time and fails I tell him to roll over and lay down I'll get on top and do it which I find way easier bc I have control!!! Well guess what he's soft again, so I try what seems like 15 min but actually prob just 5 min to get the erection back and I can't so I roll in hopes he can do something bout it but instead he gets very upset CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO FIX THIS OR WHAT IT COULD BE ITS KILLING OUR SEX LIFE!!!!!
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Thanks guys we do have 3 kids now which I assumed was the problem and he says no I've asked him what's on his mind and he says just me sexy words how were doing it you know all the things that run threw your head during the time I can't think of anything that would be causing it we have tried going for weeks even months without doing it and it's still the same problem we don't have no tv or anything in our room to stop the thought of doing it we have lots of lubes and stuff but he refuses to use them he says I make enough maybe he should go to the dr :-/
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139792 tn?1498585650
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once he discharges, he would take minimum half an hour to recover erection. So wait for half an hour before you restart.
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1831637 tn?1323264454
Sorry to hear that you are experiencing these issues.  You need to be understanding of your partner.  If indeed he does suffer from a form of impotency it can be easily relieved with Viagra which you can get from your doctor.  Most of the time, these problems are psychological, not physical.  Have a chat with him and see whats on his mind.  The worst thing you can do is make him feel awkward or embarrassed about it so try to be as sensible as possible.  The Viagra will have great results and im sure you wont be getting much sleep! :)
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1508374 tn?1380808510
It sounds like there is a lot of tense in your bedroom!! Many times routine problems cant be easily forgotten at night. I would do this If I was in your place. I would find a reason to abstain any sexual activity for a week ( weekend included!) but in the meantime I would act very sexual via my dress code or my attitude. If you manage to abstain and act like this then I believe the result will justify you!
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