Hello - I'm a reasonably healthy, 47 year old man with an enormous libido, married to a woman with mental and physical challenges which leave her borderline asexual (through no fault of her own, of course). I am not trying to change anything about her at all - her problems far outweigh mine, and I do everything I can to support her in every way. The problem is pretty obvious - and after 12 years, I'm at the end of my rope. I have tried counseling/therapy, exercise, diet changes, acupuncture, supplements (licorice root, chasteberry, etc), occupying myself to the point of exhaustion, and so forth, but nothing is really working. I've been doing some reading about androgen deprivation therapy, since no Drs will give me a prescription for a serious antiandrogen (like Depo Provera, used for chemical castrations outside the US), but I can't find anything reliable on HOW to go about it.
So my question is, do any of you have any experience with any non-perscription methods for completely killing the male libido? I have very little free time (4 kids & other ill family members I help take care of, plus a full time job, cooking, cleaning, blah blah blah) so spending 5 hours in the gym or going fly fishing every day is not really an option :-)
Even if there was just a better way for me to COPE with it, other than trying to keep in mind that it's no more her fault than it is mine, or that the world is filled with people who have it way harder than I do (which I fully realize, and am grateful for the life I have).
Thank you in advance for any thoughts.