What happened to me? Please help

[teainspace]

I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 2 years, and our relationship has been very fun and drama free. Tonight, while having some very passionate vaginal sex, he slipped himself into my anus with no warning and no lubricant other than what was on him from my vagina. I have had anal sex in the past with other partners, bet never without warning, coaching and sufficient lubrication. When he went in, it was very painful, and i immediately recoiled, and started to cry. I felt violated and terrified. Between the pain, and just shock and surprise, I couldn't help it. I tried to keep myself together, but i was so upset that I faked being sick and went to the bathroom to cry it out. I would have chocked it up to a mistake, or just coming in on a wrong angle, but he had been doing a little *** play with me before this. There was just something about the whole thing that felt intentional. This is a person who I love, and had trusted, until this incident. Am I just overreacting to an accident because Im upset, or is this really something more serious?

[YardBull]

Like you, I find your boyfriend's behavior puzzling.  You've known him for over two years, and this incident came as a complete surprise.  The only thing that comes to mind is that he was so overtaken by his sexual feelings that he hastily tried something that he has been thinking about perhaps for some time.  It may have been his first time for anal intercourse and wanted the experience but was totally unfamiliar with the process.  If you can, talk with him about what happened (with clothes on), explaining your needs when it comes to anal intercourse.      

[Vance2335]

Not really understanding what you are looking for. He tried anal sex without knowing that you need lube and things like that so it hurt. He is an idiot.