My husband wants sex at least once a night and tries for more...

[autumnfire39]

OK..I KNOW I should be flattered, but I just do not want sex every single night and he does.  He feels bad or cheated somehow if I don't and of course wants active participation.  I've tried talking to him about it, but I never know how to say I just don't feel like it without him getting upset.  If this continues, I am going to start becoming bored.  I prefer quality over quantity and by quality I mean that I am also into it.  The sex is good, but I am quickly becoming tired of it as it's becoming more of a chore than pleasure at this point.  I start thinking by the middle of the day how I can get out of it without him becoming upset.  It's like he thinks he has to prove something or he thinks our sex life isn't healthy if we don't do it every night (and he tries for 2-3 times a night!).

[Myron_Long]

Well you really need to talk this over with him before you can't walk comfortably to work one day.

[autumnfire39]

I'm 45.  He's 41.  But yeah, those excuses only work for so long.  Being honest apparently doesn't work...and that's BS.

[Myron_Long]

WOW! That's crazy and I'm a male. You never mention your age. You need to communicate this. Just tell him you're not sexually excited every night and sometimes you just want to relax after a hard days of work. Tell him you're not enjoying it all the time because he doesn't give you time to build your urge for wanting more. Or lie to him if you have to. Tell him it's hurting your vagina and you feel sore down there from the every night penetration. Tell him it feels sensitive in that area. Visit a doctor and say doc told you to reduce sex to 2-3 times a week....

Just make up some excuse like all other women to get out of sex for a couple nights.