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does everyone get bored of sex with the same person?

Im sex with the same person always loses its thrill. switching positions & scenery isn't enough… what am i missing? why does this keep happening? is this normal other for women? (for men??)
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One of the appealing things about sex is the vulnerability. It is a situation where you can be physically vulnerable with another person and let yourself go. It is the discomfort, nervousness, awkwardness, that makes it exciting and more pleasurable. This is why when couples say…”keep it exciting” what they are talking about is trying new things (positions, toys, environments, etc) that taking them a little out of their comfort zone and bring back some of the vulnerable/ awkward feelings.
Sex is a unique circumstance where you want to be vulnerable & share in each others vulnerability and making each other feel comfortable and safe.
The greatest intimate encounters is where both people can let go and be ‘victim’ to the pleasure.
Different sexual encounter & partners evoke different levels of how much you let go.. but the desire is to feel the thrill of embracing being exposed, nervous, anxious, etc.  
Whether it be a new partner that brings out the thrill, or trying something new with your spouse… Embracing vulnerability is a large part of sexual Intimacy & pleasure.

Generally speaking… man’s role is to make women fell sexy and desired.
Women’s role is to build up and protect men’s confidence and ego.
During sex a man feels the most like a man and a women feels the most like a women…

Boring sex (or bad sex) is when there is no tension or letting go. When vulnerability cannot be embraced- then sex is awkward in a way that is not arousing… (I think that that point is one of the only determining factors in regards to if someone is ready to have sex or not.)

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Been married a long time. Nothing can never replace the fist couple of years, but maturity sets. Everyone feels that way from time to time. Your partner may not tell you but he/she probably feels the same way. Work at it and make it fun.
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thanks everyone for the support… maybe i just havent met the right person...
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i think i just love the newness… the honeymoon phase...
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Hi T2, there is a very good DR, she is Dr Betty Dodson, google dobson and ross, you may find the answer your looking for there.
Good Luck
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Hi T2, Its the bonding part that your missing, when we make love or just have sex, we bond and its good for us, both sexs, its relaxing, try having sex in differant rooms and if you can get outside, sex in swimming pool is great, its not how much you do it its the love of your partner, for me I've been with the same partner for 42 years, and have sex 3/4 times a week average, you work it out.
Good Luck
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do you orgasm during sex? what part of sex excites you?
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