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1503407 tn?1289611055

homosexuality for man is permanently or partly in his whole life

Hi,

Is it possible to change from this homosexuality permanently or partly ? I think its added in my blood, i got married but still i am having the same thaught to do sex with boys, is this the birth problem ? if not is there is any other way to change completely from this ? ( like using tablets, injection etc )
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Freud said that we are all born bisexual to some degree, so there is nothing wrong with your bisexual leanings.

However, when you say you fantasize about boys, I'd be careful -- sex between consenting adults is far different than sex with minors. Although we all have sexual fantasies, you need to ask yourself if you can control yourself so that you do NOT engage in a sexual relationship with a minor that would end up psychologically damaged by your actions. If you feel you cannot control yourself, seek professional counseling.

There are no pills or magical injections to "cure" homosexuality -- learn to keep your fantasy life just a fantasy or seek counseling. Remember, bisexuality is NOT a sign of sexual deviancy but acting out sexual acts with minors definitely IS...
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1503407 tn?1289611055
ok fine thanks.
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I'd start another thread (don't reply in here anymore) by stating exactly what you want to know.    We the volunteers trying to help others did the best we could from how you stated your questions at the top.    If you reply in here then most members won't take you seriously.
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1503407 tn?1289611055
hmmm, i am confused completely.
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""""so wat is the remedy for this ?""""
By remedy,  are you again asking if you can change from being gay to straight?    If so go back and read the replies again.    If you mean you are attracted to very young males while married and so what can you do about it?      That is a whole different topic and some have replied to that already.     Remember and be warned that minors under the age of 18 here in the states under the eyes of the law are NOT able to make any legal or consensual decisions with those over 18.     That are severe legal penalties even if a minor consented to have a relationship with you.    In that is what you mean by the remedy then  I would agree with the poster above who said to see a therapist.      
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My personal opinion no remedy! you can try seeing a therapist
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1503407 tn?1289611055
so wat is the remedy for this ?
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whatever you do DON'T I repeat DON'T listen to  Myron_Long He doesn't know what he's talking about!!! Like a previous poster said don't be going with young boys
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""""""in India, the cultural view of homosexuality is that it's a medical affliction/condition of some type, not genetic as we here in the US have come to know & understand.""""""
I AM saying they are 'behind the times' just like we in the states were back in the 1950's and 1960's.  
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I think the point that you guys are missing (and when I say 'you guys', I'm referring to those that have responded to this post), is that in India, the cultural view of homosexuality is that it's a medical affliction/condition of some type, not genetic as we here in the US have come to know & understand.

I'm not saying that India is in any way "behind the times" or anything like that, I'm simply stating that the views on being gay there are fundamentally different than it's viewed her in the U-S-of-A.
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Manlokish~  There is no changing back...if you are homosexual then that's how you will be. There's nothing wrong with that. You might want to talk with your wife about this though so she understands.         Being gay is nothing to be ashamed of. It is not a sickness. It is natural for some men as they are simply born gay.  Don't worry and don't be insulted by others who have very misguided opinions.
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Another posting member says this:::::

""""""Give me a break with the gay talk. Everyone that's gay is not born gay. It's all about exposure too.... End of discussion. I'm not going back n forth on the gay issue... Have a nice life!"""""""

Exposure?    You mean society is turning straight individuals into gay individuals because there's so much talk about being gay?    That there's so many TV shows and movies about being gay that it's turning straight persons into being gay?     Is that the exposure you mean?      That young persons are visiting gay porn sites and thats turning them into being gay??     I'm only trying to show you how absurd this thinking is!

I watched my own nephew grow up and saw signs on homosexuality from his teens into now early adulthood.     He faced emotional problems at times but is now doing well.   Trust me,  you don't learn to be gay no more than you learn to be straight.   It is determined by birth.
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1503407 tn?1289611055
While i am doing sex with her, i use to do like mastrubating, and i havent visited doc ya.
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I don't feel like diggin deep into your past with more questions. The jist is you still got married to a woman. I'm assuming sometimes yall had great sex and I'm assuming yall have some kids together. Possibility you're blocking out something from your past and now you're confused.

If you think you're fully gay, how can you possibly get great erections with a woman? Have you ever had a great erection from a man?

Even when I go see my doctor and he has to take a look at my penis or touch my penis, there is not one slight hardness of the penis. What happens when you visit your doctor?
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1503407 tn?1289611055
What happen to you when you were little?

my ans  : nothing happend whenni am little, i dont know how people identified me, but they selectedly used for sex when i was 10

Someone touch you wrongly?

ans : s a lot of people, for ex : when i travel in a bus, my neighbour's, my cousins etc

You saw something gayish?

ans : after i metured i started liking boys alone....

What were you exposed to at a young age?

Ans : i exposed nothing, i just accepted, i thought that was not wrong
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Okay, I'll play with this for a little bit. Let's dissect your rationalization and determine "being born into being gay or being exposed to it"

In your post you state... " I think its added in my blood, i got married but still i am having the same thaught to do sex with boys, is this the birth problem ?"

What happen to you when you were little? Someone touch you wrongly? You saw something gayish? What were you exposed to at a young age?
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1503407 tn?1289611055
As Rich told i belive that is the real fact, that cannot be changed, its the harmone problem.
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1503407 tn?1289611055
Myron,

Thanks for your chat, but ill tell u something, people will get worry when they have their own problem, so if u r in my situation u can feel that pain surviving in our society.
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Give me a break with the gay talk. Everyone that's gay is not born gay. It's all about exposure too.... End of discussion. I'm not going back n forth on the gay issue... Have a nice life!
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Myron~  You need to understand that male homosexuality has much more to do with the man on an emotional and psychological basis than with a tight anus. Come on!!
Think about what you're saying here. It is not the act itself!! There are many factors involved here. A young child has no idea of the act itself but may,in fact,be gay. It is a birthright whether you choose to believe it or not. There is no cure and there doesn't need to be. We are all what we are...
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The poster above says::::
""""Once you experience male homosexuality, psychologically it's hard to go back to being straight because the woman's vagina CANNOT please you as much as the male anus (because it's tighter)...

Therefore, In order to come back fully or partially, you need to start having anal sex with the woman.

THIS IS MY PHILOSOPHY AND IT DOES MAKES SENSE! """"""

You may mean well and it might be your philosophy that seems to make sense to you but unfortunately this is some kind of theory that you may have read somewhere and has no basis at all.
The subject keeps coming up on the board and it probably always will.    But the real truth is that you are born gay just as you are born with brown hair instead of blonde hair,  green eyes instead of blue eyes, etc and etc.
Just as you cannot change your 'heterosexuality partly or permanently',  you cannot change your homosexuality partly or permanently.    It cannot be done.    If someone claims to have been able to do it,  they are only kidding themselves into thinking they have been 'cured' from some kind of aberation.    They are attempting to suppress their true feelings which will only cause emotional pain for a spouse and themselves.
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When having sex with a male, the anus is very tight.
When having sex with a female, the vagina is tight but nowhere tight as the anus.
We all know, the tigher the feeling, the more sensation to the penis.

Once you experience male homosexuality, psychologically it's hard to go back to being straight because the woman's vagina CANNOT please you as much as the male anus (because it's tighter)...

Therefore, In order to come back fully or partially, you need to start having anal sex with the woman.

THIS IS MY PHILOSOPHY AND IT DOES MAKES SENSE!
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