Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
Avatar universal

less of a sex drive

so i'm now engaged to a girl , 20 years of age, i originally took her virginity about 6 years ago. we went out for about 6 months and broke up due due to interist in another guy. since then  in the last 5 years we've have always reconected off and on.... ( usually booty calls from the both of us).... but never officially got back together because she liked to smoke pot and i very strongly oppose that. but we reconected about a year ago because she stopped smoking and we got back together. we are now engaged and have been for about 3 weeks.

when we got back together her sex drive was amazing for a woman ( buying sexy lingire for me as surprises, ect) we'de have sex usually about twice a week. but in the last 2 months or so ( maybe a little longer) her sex drive has dropped rediculously. we might have sex once every 2 weeks maybe. and theres no sexy lingire or anything of that sort. at all anymore. she's mentioned that shes sorry and she doesnt understand why its dropped so much, and that it's been like this with other relationships that were longer ones. she used to always make sexual comments and whisper provocative things in my ear and we just had an amazing sex life for quite a while. and then it just dropped like a rock all of a sudden.   i cant help but wonder if i'm just a horrible lover, or if it is just her. shes not on any type of birth control or any other kind of medication, and i just dont know what to make of it. can you help me out at all?? any tips ? pointers ? suggestions?
3 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
1165127 tn?1279314277
So, what is keeping you from whispering in her ear or you buying her some lingerie?

Get a bottle of her favorite wine (or maybe some champagne - Vday is coming up) some flowers, light some aroma therapy candles, and play with edible body paints :)

Who knows what might happen?

Wendy Jo
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
trust me i have.... i usually get shut down before i ever start to get sensual at all..... and she says that to her drinkin is more of a rec. thing you do with friends and doesnt get the point of just us two drinkin
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
and after a while of gettin shut down all the time.... i've just stopped tryin.... you can only take gettin shut down so many times before you get a serious problem with your own libido wonderin if its you
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Sexual Health Community

Top Sexual Health Answerers
139792 tn?1498585650
Indore, India
Avatar universal
st. louis, MO
11369760 tn?1449504372
Southwest , MI
Learn About Top Answerers
Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.