no pleasure

[savannah25]

okay, this is sort of embarrassing, anyways my husband and i .when we are intimate i never have orgasms, well, its takes forever for me to get in the mood like to be blunt ,i am never horny.thats it i could go forever and lie without sex.I never think about sex or want it.I think something is wrong, my marriage is suffering its almost uncomfortable having sex now.If there is anyone that can help me or give me some advice i really ned some. i am only 25 years old i should not have this issue, if there is anyone out there with the simuliar issue please tell me or some advice, thanks

[fluker]

My significant other  has the same problem, and after numerous doctor visits and therapy - it just comes down to this:  30% of women never get an orgasm during intercourse.  30% do, but after a lot of hard work.  The remainder have orgasms without too much hard work.  So, a doctor's visit might be good.  But, also check your sexual "mental health" - there are exercises that one can do to relax, to visualize, and there are things that the male can do as well to help with the visualization (on both sides).  Things like how much you play before going for the big one, having the right setting, making sure that you both aren't disturbed or uptight about work (myself:  I have to be away from work, the internet, email, blackberry, iphone, etc for 3 days before I'm relaxed enough to enjoy things).  Hope this helps....

[savannah25]

WELL, I HAVE ALWAYS HAD THIS ISSUE ITS NOT MY HUSBAND OR RELATIONSHIP HE IS VERY PLEASED BUT I JUST HAVE AN ISSUE, THE THOUGHT OF ESTROGEN LEVELS SEEMS THE MOST LOGIC! SO THANK YOU FOR THAT ADVICE

[Dalubaba]

Research the following words;
Kegel exercises
kundalini yoga,
Taoist yoga
Satkriya or Sat-kriya.
clitoris
You will find something useful to make sexual act pleasant.

[Justin69er]

If your marrage is suffering and things are not going well then ya that can definatly effect what goes on in bed.. maybe your not happy or he isnt. it seems like its not the sex thats the problem its your relationship.................................

[jaber268]

so strange
all of us love sex
but sure not all get the orgasm always
it needs you to be in the mood
should not be distracted while having intercourse
or thinking away
should concnetrate
and tell your partner what excites you most
unless you hate the one who is doing it with you,you should
reach the orgasm but sure not all times

good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

Maybe you could go see your ob-gyn and get a workup to see what your hormone levels are.  If your estrogen is rather low, you won't get very horny.  If all is normal with your hormones, you could look at your marriage.  Have you ever found your husband sexually exciting, or did you marry him for other reasons?  Do you ever find anyone else sexually exciting?