Hi.
I'm sorry you're feeling so worried, because your fears are groundless. You need lots of information about sexuality. You're right on the brink of adulthood, and the more you know, the more empowered you'll be, and the more empowered you are, the more you can look forward to a great and pleasurable sex life.
Almost everyone feels insecure about masturbation—or self-pleasuring. We all want to know that what WE do is OK. From your note, it looks like you feel that it’s somehow harmful or wrong. It sounds like you’re worried that self-pleasuring is some kind of “condition” or illness or that it will affect your penis. Not true.
There are no data to indicate that self-pleasuring is in any way harmful. And please realize that everyone's sexuality is different and unique to them, and everyone has differing sexual interests. There’s no optimum rate of self-pleasuring. For some of us, three times a day is just right, while for others, three times a year is all they desire—and everything in between.
Please stop worrying and enjoy your life. Accept self-pleasuring as a wonderful gift that keeps on giving.
Here are some facts about self-pleasuring:
It’s the surest way to orgasm and the most effective way to learn about our sexual response cycle, as well as the surest way men to learn orgasmic control. If you feel you come too quickly, the surest way to slow down is to teach yourself a new pattern via self-pleasuring.
For more information about sexuality, I highly recommend the site www.scarleteen.com
It's written by teens, for teens, and contains much helpful information. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
what u are doing is normal ! and its not bad either ,, maybe if you feel comfortable you could talk to your dad or brother , someone you trust ,