Aa
depressed or confused?
fetish or confusion?
by candie104
Leave a Note
Send Message
Add as Friend
candie104
Female, 38 years
milwaukee - WI
Member since Jun 2008
Mood: candie104 is curious
is there a link between depression and crossdressing? if a man crossdresses does it mean that he actually wants to be a woman? he likes to wear women's clothing but doesn't want to live life as one - i think due to embarrassment.. but thinks he is not a man because he is sensitive and doesn't like to fight, he is very sure he is not gay.. he was physically and emotionally abuse by ex wife for 12 years.. i am confused too. lingerie , workout clothes and skirts, but not hair , makeup or anything else.. or is he a depressed man who just has a fetish?
by candie104
Leave a Note
Send Message
Add as Friend
candie104
Female, 38 years
milwaukee - WI
Member since Jun 2008
Mood: candie104 is curious
is there a link between depression and crossdressing? if a man crossdresses does it mean that he actually wants to be a woman? he likes to wear women's clothing but doesn't want to live life as one - i think due to embarrassment.. but thinks he is not a man because he is sensitive and doesn't like to fight, he is very sure he is not gay.. he was physically and emotionally abuse by ex wife for 12 years.. i am confused too. lingerie , workout clothes and skirts, but not hair , makeup or anything else.. or is he a depressed man who just has a fetish?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi Candie:
There is no link between depression and cross-dressing. There are two reasons a man might cross-dress: The first is because he’s turned on by wearing women’s clothing, like your friend/partner. In other words, he’s a transvestite. There are varying degrees of transvestism. Some men are turned on by wearing total outfits, while others stick to one or two articles of clothing. Transvestites are almost exclusively heterosexual men. They are not Gay, and they don’t want to be women, they’re just turned on to women’s clothes.
When you consider how much our society eroticizes women’s clothing, it’s not surprising that while many men get turned on by LOOKING at women in sexy clothes, others make the leap to wearing them. We humans are endlessly creative in the ways we eroticize not only behavior but words, objects, situations, etc.
The second reason for cross-dressing is not sexual at all. If one is a transsexual, one feels trapped in the body of the wrong sex, so a male transsexual dresses as a woman in order to express his true self. This doesn’t sound like your partner.
If you’d like more information about transvestism, there are many support groups and information sites. Two resources for further information are:
http://www.rachelmiller.info/linkso1.htm
http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/cathytg/essays.htm
Dr. J
There is no link between depression and cross-dressing. There are two reasons a man might cross-dress: The first is because he’s turned on by wearing women’s clothing, like your friend/partner. In other words, he’s a transvestite. There are varying degrees of transvestism. Some men are turned on by wearing total outfits, while others stick to one or two articles of clothing. Transvestites are almost exclusively heterosexual men. They are not Gay, and they don’t want to be women, they’re just turned on to women’s clothes.
When you consider how much our society eroticizes women’s clothing, it’s not surprising that while many men get turned on by LOOKING at women in sexy clothes, others make the leap to wearing them. We humans are endlessly creative in the ways we eroticize not only behavior but words, objects, situations, etc.
The second reason for cross-dressing is not sexual at all. If one is a transsexual, one feels trapped in the body of the wrong sex, so a male transsexual dresses as a woman in order to express his true self. This doesn’t sound like your partner.
If you’d like more information about transvestism, there are many support groups and information sites. Two resources for further information are:
http://www.rachelmiller.info/linkso1.htm
http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/cathytg/essays.htm
Dr. J
thank you for clearing this up1 we have talked and done some rolepalying and are happy with the results.. he will be relieved to find this out..
You are reading content posted in the Sexuality & Relationships Forum
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
