Dealing with separation

[Tully2015]

I'm a 36 year old female and have been married for 13yrs now. Recently we started have fights, caused by minor things and ended up living separate lives in different places, he even threatened to divorce me. I got involved with a married man and we were so much in love that I totally forgot abt my marriage problems, didn't even care abt the divorce. This lasted for abt a year. Out of the blue the guy is nowhere to be found. Sometimes he phones and promise to come and see me bt he wouldn't pitch... No phone call, nothing. He claims to love me. I'm wondering if this guy really loved me or was just fulfilling his own desires. He was my shoulder to cry on as I don't have friends. Now I'm left alone, sometimes crying all day long. How to forget abt this man and continue living my life?

[Resilience101]

Separation can be difficult. But remember who you were & still are prior to marriage. Know & acknowledge your worth. Unfortunately, getting involved w/ another married man may have not been a wise choice. This guy may be having the same situation you are experiencing at home, with his wife being in the same position as you are in or maybe not. This married guy has taken advantage of your emotional state during your separation for his own selfish benefit. Once he was satisfied, he most likely, removed himself from the situation & now off to his next victim or back home to his family. You are bigger than this situation. Hopefully your husband will "wake" up before it's too late & maybe he will want to properly reconcile when he realizes the great loss that he may forfeit.  Hoping for more than the best for you! Love & respect yourself no matter what! Women are strong, now show your strength. Pamper yourself during this time. Even talk to a counselor about seperation,  stress, etc. PLEASE DON'T let this dark road control or define you!

[sundaynightstress]

Sorry to hear about .  Perhaps if I know more information, maybe I can help.  Are you still currently married?  Do you intend to rekindle your relationship with your husband, or are you going to proceed with a divorce?

My first bit of advice though, reach out and meet new people.  You said you do not have many friends, so perhaps start making some.  What are your interests?  Do you have hobbies you enjoy?  There are meet up groups where I live for people that share things in common.  Perhaps that is a good place to start.