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To Shaz
I hope respite went well. I thought I better type out that stuff I promised I would before I forgot again.
1. Acknowledge a feeling
2. Identify the feeling
3. What's the feeling about.
Child self Adult self
Reacts (I need) -past (Intense) Responds (I want/ would like) -now (calm)
What, when, where, who, how
I feel
4. Validate the feeling (permission)
It's OK to feel x, y, z
5. Practical intervention
6. Integration
7. Growth
1. Acknowledge a feeling
2. Identify the feeling
3. What's the feeling about.
Child self Adult self
Reacts (I need) -past (Intense) Responds (I want/ would like) -now (calm)
What, when, where, who, how
I feel
4. Validate the feeling (permission)
It's OK to feel x, y, z
5. Practical intervention
6. Integration
7. Growth
I hope it goes well at with your doctor today, hope you can get some answers.
I went to my partners aunts today it was a stressful today its far away i drove up and panicked so many times so my partner drove back.
The depression is on its way back i can feel it even today my partner says he can see me going away again in my mind i am quiet and irritable when spoken too. So the more feeling bit didn't last long, the police are calling tomorrow to speak about the incident i reported to them so maybe thats why i am shutting down again. I also have respite tomorrow evening and home for a while on Thursday then back on Thursday night i am anxious i panicked last time which still scares me.
You mentioned ocd i also have ocd i have had it for about 14yrs and when i am really anxious i have alot more rituals and it drives me mad it holds me back alot getting out of the house and going to bed is a nightmare i have so much i have to do.
Hugging my children is so relaxing, not adults though i feel safe with my children.
I hope it goes well with you at the doctors, take care.
I went to my partners aunts today it was a stressful today its far away i drove up and panicked so many times so my partner drove back.
The depression is on its way back i can feel it even today my partner says he can see me going away again in my mind i am quiet and irritable when spoken too. So the more feeling bit didn't last long, the police are calling tomorrow to speak about the incident i reported to them so maybe thats why i am shutting down again. I also have respite tomorrow evening and home for a while on Thursday then back on Thursday night i am anxious i panicked last time which still scares me.
You mentioned ocd i also have ocd i have had it for about 14yrs and when i am really anxious i have alot more rituals and it drives me mad it holds me back alot getting out of the house and going to bed is a nightmare i have so much i have to do.
Hugging my children is so relaxing, not adults though i feel safe with my children.
I hope it goes well with you at the doctors, take care.
I remember when I was first depressed I would feel absolutely buggered just driving to the gym. Workouts weren't really happening.
I probably wouldn't mind going again (to tone up and get fit) but it is inconvenient (30 minute drive) and I can't afford it. I'm sure it would help my self-confidence, etc though.
I hate it when your mind races like that. There are just way to many thoughts, etc.
Maybe your kids are just so non-threatening. My T said that the touch thing was due to my physical body being equivalent to people's psychological defenses. Does that make sense? Guess my psychological defenses were/ are just way too primitive at times.
My T use to have blankets in her office for patients/ clients. I use to hate that too. Probably not a huge fan of nurturing or trusting another individual to nurture me. It felt too uncomfortable, too unsafe.
Holidays for me can be stressful. Most health professionals are away which can reinforce my losses but also leave me feeling isolated and alone and like I have to cope with everything. It feels a little overwhelming at times. Plus it seems to make the time go by a lot slower.
The highlight of my day at the moment is MacGyver. That's pretty sad but it seems to break the day up for me (it's on at 2 pm). Usually there will be something on TV in the evening. Survivor starts this Thursday night. It all helps just a little. This is why I need therapy so badly. Currently I am using the internet and TV to distract myself and to help me cope. I can't see my GP doing anything tomorrow.
Once you do it you will likely feel a sense of achievement. I have quite bad ocd. When I manage to do something that breaks that behavior even a little I feel a sense of accomplishment.
Less depression more feeling has got to be good, right? I'm not convinced because feeling is painful but it sounds as though it is likely to be healthier.
I probably wouldn't mind going again (to tone up and get fit) but it is inconvenient (30 minute drive) and I can't afford it. I'm sure it would help my self-confidence, etc though.
I hate it when your mind races like that. There are just way to many thoughts, etc.
Maybe your kids are just so non-threatening. My T said that the touch thing was due to my physical body being equivalent to people's psychological defenses. Does that make sense? Guess my psychological defenses were/ are just way too primitive at times.
My T use to have blankets in her office for patients/ clients. I use to hate that too. Probably not a huge fan of nurturing or trusting another individual to nurture me. It felt too uncomfortable, too unsafe.
Holidays for me can be stressful. Most health professionals are away which can reinforce my losses but also leave me feeling isolated and alone and like I have to cope with everything. It feels a little overwhelming at times. Plus it seems to make the time go by a lot slower.
The highlight of my day at the moment is MacGyver. That's pretty sad but it seems to break the day up for me (it's on at 2 pm). Usually there will be something on TV in the evening. Survivor starts this Thursday night. It all helps just a little. This is why I need therapy so badly. Currently I am using the internet and TV to distract myself and to help me cope. I can't see my GP doing anything tomorrow.
Once you do it you will likely feel a sense of achievement. I have quite bad ocd. When I manage to do something that breaks that behavior even a little I feel a sense of accomplishment.
Less depression more feeling has got to be good, right? I'm not convinced because feeling is painful but it sounds as though it is likely to be healthier.
Its good you went for the run, blisters are so sore i can't run i am so unfit and i won't walk anywhere because of the panic attacks, the gym i could manage but because i have been so low lately i haven't had the energy.
I am anxious today i hate it, less depression but so anxious i am hyper i have too be doing something all the time, then when i am depressed i can hardly move, even though i am hyper my body still doesn't have much energy just my mind is going all the time.
I don't like being touched by adults but i love hugging my children so i don't understand i am totally uncomfortable if an adult hugged me or touched me when talking even my arm or hand its weird.
I hate the easter holidays they are long and i hate when it quiet and the children are out of their routine, we are going to visit my partners aunt tomorrow its a long drive it doesn't help my argraphobia but anyway i need to push it and do it.
I hope you had a good day mine was quiet but at least less depression for now anyway.
I am anxious today i hate it, less depression but so anxious i am hyper i have too be doing something all the time, then when i am depressed i can hardly move, even though i am hyper my body still doesn't have much energy just my mind is going all the time.
I don't like being touched by adults but i love hugging my children so i don't understand i am totally uncomfortable if an adult hugged me or touched me when talking even my arm or hand its weird.
I hate the easter holidays they are long and i hate when it quiet and the children are out of their routine, we are going to visit my partners aunt tomorrow its a long drive it doesn't help my argraphobia but anyway i need to push it and do it.
I hope you had a good day mine was quiet but at least less depression for now anyway.
I expect that is like some of the relationships I have had with health professionals. If my family were as remotely understanding or as empathetic as them then maybe I wouldn't be in this situation.
I don't like people touching me. My family don't respect me when I ask them not to touch me. Is hard to respect them when they violate my personal boundaries.
Him. I apologized for how I addressed my comments. I felt that they were a bit aggressive.
Me too. I actually went for a run today but I didn't manage very well due to heaps of blisters on my foot. I think I might have to re-evaluate what I'm going to do.
My mum wants to phone my sister now so need to go. Will write again tomorrow.
I don't like people touching me. My family don't respect me when I ask them not to touch me. Is hard to respect them when they violate my personal boundaries.
Him. I apologized for how I addressed my comments. I felt that they were a bit aggressive.
Me too. I actually went for a run today but I didn't manage very well due to heaps of blisters on my foot. I think I might have to re-evaluate what I'm going to do.
My mum wants to phone my sister now so need to go. Will write again tomorrow.
I agree a lack of support would really not help, i have limited support but i have some and i have found the more i open up espically to my social worker the more supportive she has become, if my mother was that supportive i would have no need for therapy.
I sense your frustration and i read your other conversation and i agree with you in a lot of ways we both know that being brought up in the same environment doesn't make you the same and parents do make differences whether they know it or not, i feel the way i was brought up has affected me alot as an adult, the last time i hugged my mother i was 10 i never remember hugging my father they blamed me for not hugging them, i was 10 i must have had some reason for the lack of contact and why did they not hug me and my parents have never told me that they loved me.
At least you were honest and open in giving that other person your opinion and you do say alot of really helpful stuff, i don't want to comment too much on it because i feel like i am talking about her behind her back.
I hope your doctor can help you and i know how you feel having to wait so long it makes you feel like no one cares how bad you feel and they don't seem to understand the frustration they cause. Sometimes its ok to be angry though if it helps if you can get it out in the right way, i know i was so angry last week and i wrecked so many things but i got it out anyway and talking with my social worker really helped.
The new event sounds like something positive something to work towards.
I hope you feel less angry soon, enjoy your day.
I sense your frustration and i read your other conversation and i agree with you in a lot of ways we both know that being brought up in the same environment doesn't make you the same and parents do make differences whether they know it or not, i feel the way i was brought up has affected me alot as an adult, the last time i hugged my mother i was 10 i never remember hugging my father they blamed me for not hugging them, i was 10 i must have had some reason for the lack of contact and why did they not hug me and my parents have never told me that they loved me.
At least you were honest and open in giving that other person your opinion and you do say alot of really helpful stuff, i don't want to comment too much on it because i feel like i am talking about her behind her back.
I hope your doctor can help you and i know how you feel having to wait so long it makes you feel like no one cares how bad you feel and they don't seem to understand the frustration they cause. Sometimes its ok to be angry though if it helps if you can get it out in the right way, i know i was so angry last week and i wrecked so many things but i got it out anyway and talking with my social worker really helped.
The new event sounds like something positive something to work towards.
I hope you feel less angry soon, enjoy your day.
Elements of depression and anxiety make them equally hard to deal with -I think.
Hopefully clarifying where you're both at will help a little. Keep talking to him about things. I think that may help him understand and also help you understand.
Just baby steps. One thing at a time.
I was looking at a new event I could enter today which is a number of weeks away. They are giving out finishers medals so it sounds perfect.
I've taken out some of my frustration on a member who posted on the mh expert forum.
I was going to apologize then I thought better of it. I've now just posted more ugly stuff.
Crazy.
I think all the stress and lack of support and failures have really triggered me.
Hopefully I can be civil to my doctor. Not sure at this stage. I feel hurt and angry that he left me with no support and contingencies and has let this go on for so long. Took him forever to get the review. Lots of deep breaths right. I haven't been this angry for ages.
Hope you have a great day too.
Hopefully clarifying where you're both at will help a little. Keep talking to him about things. I think that may help him understand and also help you understand.
Just baby steps. One thing at a time.
I was looking at a new event I could enter today which is a number of weeks away. They are giving out finishers medals so it sounds perfect.
I've taken out some of my frustration on a member who posted on the mh expert forum.
I was going to apologize then I thought better of it. I've now just posted more ugly stuff.
Crazy.
I think all the stress and lack of support and failures have really triggered me.
Hopefully I can be civil to my doctor. Not sure at this stage. I feel hurt and angry that he left me with no support and contingencies and has let this go on for so long. Took him forever to get the review. Lots of deep breaths right. I haven't been this angry for ages.
Hope you have a great day too.
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