there is no love in my life

[becca4vball]

my parents are going through a divorce right now and have honestly never gotten along and all of my friends parents are divorced, seperated or just always angry with each other. boys arnt attracted to me even though im really not ugly actually i think im pretty. but ive never been hugged by a guy and i just feel like my life is getting screwed up because i havnt even had a crush on a guy in 5 years. i feel like its because ive never seen a successful relationship. im a 16 year old girl, something is definetly wrong if i havnt had a crush on someone since 5th grade. plz help me!

[grendslori]

At 16, I would make a bet that there is some guy out there that has a mad crush on you and is too shy to talk to you. I found out years after the fact that there were 3 different guys who wanted to ask me out but could muster up the nerve! I had no clue at the time they all felt this way. Sometimes relationships go south; it happens, but how you start off the relationships often times helps to cause the later breakup. When people are young, sex plays a huge role in getting a couple together to begin with; how a person looks. Sometimes how a person looks is ALL that is important so an inner knowledge of each other is lost. Young people spend too much time in bed which is the physical; it's the person on the inside that is important to get to know. Looks change over time. People gain weight, people lose their hair, they get sloppy in the way they dress or take care of themselves; if someone gets into a relationship just because of the way someone looks, their relationship is almost certain to fail. When a man truely respects a woman he will wait to take her to bed; he spends his time getting to know her for the person she truely is. Sex comes much later when he is sure she is the right woman for him to spend the rest of his life with. She becomes the woman he wants to become the mother of his children and in the long run, if her hair is turning gray and she has put on some unwanted pounds, it won't matter to him because it is the person inside that he fell in love with. You have a whole lifetime in front of you; enjoy it to the fullest. Adulthood, along with all of it's responsibilities, will be all too soon in coming!    

[Jo177]

Nothing is wrong with you. Something happens differently with every person. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. But then I have a few friends who don't like anyone and have never had a boyfriend, and they aren't ugly to me. I'm a junior in high school. I think you should just be yourself. One day maybe talk to a guy and maybe things will go farther than just one conversation, and if they don't, just keep being yourself. No need to change for a guy!