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822852 tn?1238541277

i feel terrible

im a girl
15 years of age

i look down on myself a lot because im not liked by boys much.
the main reason is because i havnt done sexual things with anyone yet.
and i think im really ugly when people tell me im not.
and im just always so sad and depressed. i dont know why.
i havnt inflicted any pain on myself
but this is giving me sleep problems
and concentration problems too...
i really dont like this
should i seek help
im afraid to tell my parents i might be depressed...
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I would really like the source on the idea that boys are less depressed than girls.  In my experience, it's the opposite, but boys have to learn to hide it better.  
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I am in the process of getting my masters degree in psychology. You should know that many people your age are depressed. Typically, girls your age are more depressed than boys. It's important to know that you're not alone.

The problems you are having with self confidence and self image can be difficult to fight. However, remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how bleak things may seem now, your perspective on yourself and on your life will grow and get better.

However cliche this answer may seem to you, beauty is on the inside. Don't worry about what boys like you and what boys don't like you. There will come a time when a great boy will come and sweep you off your feet. Remember, always stay true to yourself, and always remember to keep a logical perspective on your life. The root of your problems are most likely being caused by your low self image, lack of confidence, and depression. You are really a great person, but you have a voice in your head that constantly puts you down.

There are some things you can do to try and cope with your problems. For example, try and set goals for yourself. Make your goals as realistic as possible, so you can accomplish them slowly using baby steps.

If you get to the point where you are considering harming yourself, You should calmly tell your parents what's been troubling you. Medication can sometimes be a smart option, but there is certainly no guarantee it will work. Sleep problems are one of the main symptoms of depression, and your lack of restorative sleep is causing your lack of focus.

In the meantime, try and stop worrying about things. Worry is one of the root causes of depression. I understand that it's easier said than done, but you should consciously make the effort as best you can. Also, don't worry about sex. Many boys intend to, and no doubt will, make sexual advances on you when you're older. You're at an age that many people would consider to be the "awkward years."

If you want someone to talk to, you can talk to me if you'd like. Send me a message through here. I'd love to hear your story and get to know you better on AIM. - Take care.
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If you feel that you can trust them, then tell your parents, and tell them that you want to see a professional.  In addition to seeing a counselor yo should also talk to your primary care provider, who may be able to test you for depression and other mood disorders, and if not then will refer you to someone who can.  
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785277 tn?1244324809
if you have inflicted pain upon yourself, then you probably should seek help. About the sex thing, a lot of highschoolers get pressured into it, but most of them only feel ashamed of themselves when they do it. I can't really tell you whether you're ugly on the outside or not bc i haven't seen u before, but i'm sure you're beautiful on the inside- only a beautiful person would let things like these bother them. If you do seek help, just think about the good things that will happen- you can concentrate better on school (bring the grades up), and sleep better. I know how hard it is to go on little sleep and go thru highschool- im 15 also. About telling ur parents...  if you're too afraid to tell them, u can tell ur guidance counselor at school about the things that have been bothering u, and maybe he/she can decide from there the best way to tell ur parents. Good luck, and message me if you feel really low or just want to talk :)
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