i dont think its kidney stones last time i went to the e.r they checked ive has kidney stones before this is diffrent
You need to see a urologist and find out what's going on instead of just going to the ER when it's acute. It sounds like your kidneys are suffering, and they are very important, so get to a urologist and find out what's wrong.
It seems like you might be getting reinfected, so you need to take steps to stop the cycle of getting infected.
Two articles that can help:
http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/utiadult/
http://womenshealth.about.com/od/urinarytractinfections/a/preventuti.htm