it could be a yeast infection, ive never had herpes, but from the sounds of it it very well could be, be careful and I hope the very best for u!!!!
This very same problem happened to me, and I'm sorry to say it was herpes 2. My partner acknowledged that he did have it, so at least I didn't feel like I was going crazy, but it still sucked. All of your symptoms match the symptoms I had. The only good thing I can tell you right now is that you will feel normal again. I've dealt with genital herpes for the past 20 years, and each year my flair ups decrease. It only appears about 2-3 times/year now, and almost always right before my period, or if I'm really stressed out. In the beginning, it flared up closer to 6-8 times/year.
I took Valtrex, occasionally, but it made my stomach hurt, so I just let it run it's course now.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. Go get a second opinion if you think it's something else. If it is, stay healthy, try to keep stress low and deal with it when it comes up. Oh, and always protect a sexual partner so what happened to you, won't happen to someone else.
Good luck!