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My boyfriend cant stay hard
My boyfriend is having trouble staying hard during sex.
When we first started everything was fine (about 3/4months ago) however he needs about a 30min break between times. But recently he's been unable to hold an erection during sex despite the length of foreplay.
Ive tried to tell him it doesn't matter but I know it bugs him because he feels as though hes disappointing me-I think it might have something to do with his need to impress me. But I cant think of why this began to happen.
Ive bought lingerie and tried new positions but its still the same result...Hes only 18 but wont seek any help sine hes so shy.
Can anyone else??
When we first started everything was fine (about 3/4months ago) however he needs about a 30min break between times. But recently he's been unable to hold an erection during sex despite the length of foreplay.
Ive tried to tell him it doesn't matter but I know it bugs him because he feels as though hes disappointing me-I think it might have something to do with his need to impress me. But I cant think of why this began to happen.
Ive bought lingerie and tried new positions but its still the same result...Hes only 18 but wont seek any help sine hes so shy.
Can anyone else??
Yeah, if we go more than once he's always needed a break (which he told me before we ever did anything) that's not a problem I get tired anyway, but its the first time he can be hard for foreplay but even if its just 5mintues when he goes in, it can be about 10minutes max & then he'll go soft again before he's ejaculated (which is when I started trying new things to see if that helped)
I do worry hes too focused on trying to please me (a lot of his friends has said im out of his league which has him worried hes not enough) but we've talked through all that & hes fine. But he cant seem to hold an erection for long- we only see eachother once a week at most and we don't always have sex, hes tried not masturbating for the week and it made no difference.
But it frustrates him because hes still excited & ofcourse so am I but theres nothing he can do to help himself. We've fallen asleep together a few times & tried after that but its made no difference, hes not stressed that I know of, or anxious and neither of us drink...
Hes so shy so getting him to go to the doctor is next to impossible, he doesn't want to make a fuss as he says. Im more worried than he is, I just don't want him to keep feeling so frustrated
I do worry hes too focused on trying to please me (a lot of his friends has said im out of his league which has him worried hes not enough) but we've talked through all that & hes fine. But he cant seem to hold an erection for long- we only see eachother once a week at most and we don't always have sex, hes tried not masturbating for the week and it made no difference.
But it frustrates him because hes still excited & ofcourse so am I but theres nothing he can do to help himself. We've fallen asleep together a few times & tried after that but its made no difference, hes not stressed that I know of, or anxious and neither of us drink...
Hes so shy so getting him to go to the doctor is next to impossible, he doesn't want to make a fuss as he says. Im more worried than he is, I just don't want him to keep feeling so frustrated
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Blokes are not like women. Women can have multiple orgasms. With a bloke once he has ejaculated, the body needs to have time to make the semen again, so no matter what you try to do to stimulate him, if his body is not ready, it won't happen even if he wants it too.
If he is not able to do it the one time, tiredness, stress, anxiety, having too much alcohol can all hamper him from having an erection, as well as some medications. It may be that he is being put under too much pressure to please you and trying too hard.
You don't have to have sex every time you see each other.
On the other hand, if there is a problem that is nothing to do with the above, a doctor can do a blood test to check his hormone levels. If his hormone levels are too low, the doctor can prescribe a testosterone gel. This is rubbed into any part of the body, but not the genitals.