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prostate massage ruined my life

I went from being a virile, sexually fucntional and very active guy last year. Then had an amateur prostate massage from a girl I was seeing.it was non painful and fairly unremarkable I thought. But I have had continual problems from that day on. The very next day woke up with incontinence, and only able to get a 70% erection. Terrfying for a 33 year old, fit athletic guy.
Two weeks of Floxacin/quinalone type drugs from the doc almost fixed it, then it came back.

No incontinence now but still a poor 75% strength erection and as of the last 4 months copious seminal fluid production and inability to feel orgasms, I can ejaculate( barely) but don't feel it at all- just a wierd stuffy pressure feeling.

On continual floxacin/quinalone and I think a course of some kind of sulphanamide(?)drugs for almost 6 months and not getting any better.Very depressed now.

Urologists examined me and say prostrate is a little enlarged but not that bad.

Okay I am ******, I understand that. One of the 10% who never recovers from this problem or whatever the hell it is I guess.

But at least can someone tell me what the **** happended from that little prostrate massage?
It seems to have permanently injured me or introduced an incurable bacteria to my system.

How is this possible, I thought prostate massages were supposed to be healthy??????????????
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And one of the most annoying things, people not believing you, including f******* doctors
1. So you had a prostate massage and 12 hours later your sex life was ruined?
YES
2. So you can still get an erection( albeit only 70%) yet you claim to not feel normal arousal anymore?
YES
3. So you can reach ejaculation but when you do you dont feel the orgasm, its just a release of fluid
YES

4. Oh it must be pyschological, and STD, sexual exhaustion.

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It happened 12 hours after a prostate massage,

I got mildly sick, back ache, and incontinent for several days, didnt have normal erections and felt swollen and 'stuffy' downstairs.

It recovered slightly then I woke up a week later with worse symptoms and difficulty walking to extreme back and hip pain. After a trip to the hospital, the pain subsided, but no regaining lost sexual function.

This almost needs to be stickied. A prostate massage is like looking at the sun, watching a welding arc as far as I am concerned. Dont do it
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Hi Im the OP, its been 13 years since it happened now. My sex life pretty much become non existant for me. I was 33 then, I am 46 or so now. I could still maintain a decent erection( though still reduced sensation, it never really recovered for me) until my early 40's.

Now I have lost almost all sensation and erectile function.

I did not try any treatment for it after the first year of treatment failed. I did visit two urologists two years after it happened, maybe 2010 or so but the first ones reply was they could take samples from the prostate( cytoscopy) but gave me the caveat"There is nothing surgery cant make worse"in other words  he was willing to have a poke around if I was desperate enough, just so long as I realised it probably wouldnt make a lick of difference and could in fact make things worse.

The second urologist pretty much didnt want to deal with me, pushed me out of his ofrfice and referred me to a mens sexual health consellor..Reading between the lines on that  from both urologists- "Your screwed buddy".

I have over the years taken heavy doses of antibiotics for other ailments, but none make any difference to my prostate, the damage was done early on I'd say.

This needs to be made sexual or medical news to people out there. DONT MESS WITH THE PROSTATE. IF YOU STIR UP A LATENT INFECTION YOU COULD LOSE EVERYTHING YOU HOLD DEAR!!!!

There are no two ways about it. This was not an STD, it was not some 0ther complaint, nor was it pscyological. The prostate massage ruined my normal sex life forever. I lost 30% penile function and about 65% sensation just 12 hours after it happened. It never came back. And now I am about 10% each.
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Hey sjenkins75, sorry to hear this.  I got an injury at the very start of my 20s, before having sexual intercourse, and over a decade has passed for me too.  It was not over a prostate massage (I'll know now not to have that done ever, thank you), but I experienced the same thing from people including doctors, they want to tell you it's in your head, or you're too young to have that, etc.  They'll deny reality right in front of them because it doesn't say it in their book or something, or their ego is threatened perhaps, not sure exactly what it is.  No trust in the patient for many people.  I had perfect 100% rock hard erections every time, no issues whatsoever, then there was a physical accident basically, it bled, etc, then after that erections were basically non-existent, and I was being told I'm nervous, or it's in my head, or BS like that... like people think it is impossible to physically injure a penis or something... it's bizarre thinking... perhaps it comes from the 1960s sort of sexual revolution where they push against any form of sexual control so that to say it's possible to injure the penis, might then imply that people need to take certain precautions, which mean maybe sexual activity is not so care-free afterall... it's like their whole worldview will be seen as coming under attack or something... because I get the biggest push back from those types... but whatever it is, people just internalized that you can do no wrong down there, so like in your case, there was something physical (a massage) then a night and day change, not some gradual over decades change, an instant night and day change so any rational person would start there and investigate and it's pretty obvious, but yeah like you wrote, you have something physical done to your body, it's a night and day change, then they conclude STD... it's messed man... education on the penis needs to be improved, with many doctors too.. and needs to be taught... I bet every year thousands of guys are affected... it's not right and I hope one day it changes
* I meant to say self control, not just control, but self control, self restraint
Doctors and laymen seem to have a general idea about hormones, like testosterone, and they'll mention nitric acid, and people mention their diet because they've heard of blocked arteries and blood flow, and maybe some people discuss nerve damage, and certainly most jump to it's in your head, you're nervous - though perhaps just in these past five years less people jump straight to that, so we're likely already seeing improvement.  But there is much more to an erection than this and many more ways for a penis to get injured and for things to go wrong.  What is not considered or outright treated with hostility is the idea that you can physically injury your penis, and not just nerve damage.  And most people have no understanding about how that works, etc.  So you'll have guys in their teens or early 20s who will not have blocked arteries from bad diet at such an age, whose hormones are fine, and testosterone levels are high, and doctors and others won't have an f-ing clue, so instead of saying they have no idea, or being open to exploration, or refer them to someone who does know, they'll just say it's in their head, etc.  It's pretty awful.  It's changing thanks to me, and thanks to you, and thanks to other patients who speak up, and through some doctors out there who are willing to challenge their field and fill in the gaps, but yeah most people are still very behind here.  I think it will eventually catch up.
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Did you also get a prostate massage prior to these symptoms? How long has it been like that for you?
No I never got a massage but just sort of happened to me, can’t figure out a stimulus for it. Sort of hit me March 2018 and never left
I see. How old are you if I may ask? Any stressful events or depression?
I’m 32. No not really maybe some mild depression. Just got married and it was stressful knowing if it was the right decision or not the whole way leading up to it and stressful not knowing why I lost interest in sex and drive and lost feeling in orgasm
Could very well be your marriage/partner. I'd recommend you see a therapist. Good luck! At least no one messed with your prostate :)
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I have all these symptoms, oh my gosh it sucks but a relief to maybe find out it has something to do with the prostate, I was convinced it was low t but been tested several times and my t is fine. Sometimes if i get stimulated it feels like a swelling or pressure in my prostate. I can have sex but I’m not charged or turned on. No issues with errections just never really in the mood. I also noticed a weak sluggish pelvic floor, can’t squeeze out the end of my urination like I used to so I have to wait for it all to come out rather than force the end of it all out. Anyone else have anything like this???
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It definitely could be prostate related.  Have you had that checked?  You 'can' or can't have sex?  You are saying your libido is low but you are not impotent?
I think they might have checked in in an ultrasound and it appeared normal size, im going to double check they looked at the prostate. Yes definantly not impotent but never really interested in having sex. my pelvic floor feels weak and sluggish to squeeze out urine, and don't feel orgasms, not tired after orgasm like i used to be
Not interested in having sex is different so that's going to make them wonder about a different causation.  What about lack of testosterone?  Ever have your hormone levels checked?  And also, do you have issues with anxiety or depression?
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I have all these symptoms, oh my gosh it sucks but a relief to maybe find out it has something to do with the prostate, I was convinced it was low t but been tested several times and my t is fine. Sometimes if i get stimulated it feels like a swelling or pressure in my prostate. I can have sex but I’m not charged or turned on. No issues with errections just never really in the mood. I also noticed a weak sluggish pelvic floor, can’t squeeze out the end of my urination like I used to so I have to wait for it all to come out rather than force the end of it all out. Anyone else have anything like this???
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Hi all

I had exactly the same experience. Prostate massage from an amateur .also nothing remarkable that day just experienced this weird prostate ejaculation that didn't feel like much.

BUT since then, 4 months ago, my erections are almost non existent have to manually stimulate myself to get to an almost hard state...I lost desire in sex almost completely and my orgasms are empty..just a fluid release. I had my prostate examined and it was fine. I don't know what to do? Is it all inmy head? Did she damage a nerve? Is there a cure for this? Please anybody help!
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Ive always heard you’re supposed to be careful with prostate massage, not to pet the central nerve, to pet the lobes on either side — though it seems many prostate toys dont observe this.
Maybe you have nerve damage?
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Sjenkins75.......i was having pain in my left testicle, which eventually I found out was pain radiating from a back injury. The pain was the only problem until I went to get checked out by a urologist who misdiagnosed me with prostatitis. I was givin medcations obviously with no improvement and after the medications he decided he wanted to give me a prostate massage after the prostate massage I get the all of the EXACT same symptoms as you... Plus a slight pinching sting in the tip of my penis that comes and goes. If u are to read this  have u solved the problem?
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Hi T555, I have symptoms very similar to yours. Did you finally get a diagnosis?
You guys are both experiencing what I would guess sounds like either bacteria from an STD like Chlamydia or Gonorrhea or a problem related to the parasympathetic/sympathetic nerves near your prostate.  The latter is a better fit but not nearly as common in someone with recent stories of a such a memorable night.  Both would make since with the symptoms.  The symptoms as they relate to these nerves aren't necessarily a result of direct intervention from an inexperienced prostate masseus.  The same same symptoms can be present as a result of sexual exhaustion (too much masturbation), a back injury where there is nerve impingement, medications illicit drugs and even herbal supplements. Unlikely but could erhaps even be some type of problem in the autonomic system.  I'd say get tested for STDs and look up sexual exhaustion to see if you fit more of the symptoms.  
Spinal problem can cause pinched nerve and may introduce pain in any area - so the suggestion that its due back problem is feasible  
Don't allow amateurs to mess around with your internal organs, no matter how good it feels at the time. Your body is a finely tuned machine. The tubes/lines that connect with each organ and with each other are hooked up very precisely. Would you let an amateur fool around with your fuel, oil or power steering lines?
Oh yes, I agree!  That's a good point and hope all heed your advice.
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Hi,
There’s a definite possibility of an infection restricted to the prostate gland (acute prostatitis) getting spread to the nearby epididymis or sometimes to the blood with the prostate massage. I’ll suggest you to take a complete antibiotic treatment and in future avoid prostatic massage. I know treating a prostatic infection is a nightmare both for the patient as well as the treating physician but patience does pay in majority of the cases. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care.
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