Abortion.?

[Diamond_Pearl]

So as I stated in my last post I am 21 currently not working due to finding out I was pregnant (Truck Driving),&& Lost my car due to not paying my car his note trying to help others around Me instead of doing what I should. So I currently don't work neither have transportation. I only have my god parents and a few friends I went to school with here parents in family in Florida in everybody feel as if I should get an abortion due to me not being stable to take care of a baby at this time it hurts because I don't believe in abortions but I'm pressured everyday. I'm only 6weeks in think I could make a way for me in my child am I wrong.?

[specialmom]

Hi there. The purpose of this forum is to safely discuss ALL of a woman's choices.  For some, abortion is the best option and there needs to be a place for women to get information about that.  This is it.  :>)  It really isn't for opinions about abortion.  

[Chima7]

It's so easy for everyone to tell you to keep it. They aren't the ones who have to pay for it or figure out how to take care of it. If you don't even have a car or a place to live or any support of any kind, how in the heck are you seriously going to take care of a baby? Take the emotion out of it and think logically. You can't possibly think it would be a very healthy environment for a baby the way you're living right now.

The good news is that you have options and that's why you need to truly think hard about each option and decide what would be best for you right now as things are. Don't let a bunch of strangers on the internet make this decision for you. Make your pros and cons list for each option and pick the one that is going to be the best option for you realistically. That's the only way you'll make the right choice.

[rajahn]

Abortion is not an answer.  There are so many resources out there that can help you.  I have been here and if you need to talk i would love to lend you an ear and advice.  I was a young mother not in an ideal situation either.

[specialmom]

Listen, I come at this in a more practical way.  I'm a firm believer in God but I also see lots of kids suffer and lots of women having very difficult lives.  I hate to see that and do believe that some take on more than they can handle.  I'm very practical and having a child is a huge responsibility.  

When I personally made the decision to have kids, I wanted to be stable, have a home, be able to offer all my kids needed and frankly, wanted as having your kids see what others have and not being able to get it for them stings a bit.  You don't feel this so much when they are tiny but down the road, it's noticeable.  And when you start out in poverty, it is so hard to get out of it.  That's just a fact.  So, I wanted to be established before being a mother so I could focus on that rather than trying to get my life on track

this is not to say you 'can't' do it.   But that I understand why you are wondering if it is the best thing.  I would think long and hard.  Some will say 'don't abort' but they aren't in your shoes or going to be there to help you when times are tough.

So, I know I'm not giving you flowery "you can do it" kind of talk that is nice to hear---  I know you probably don't like what I'm saying.  But this isn't about what anyone on the internet believes you should do.  This is what you feel you CAN do at this point in your life.  Make a list of pros and cons of each choice, termination, adoption and keeping the baby and see what it looks like after that.  good luck hon

[Diamond_Pearl]

Thank you ladies I'm tearing up reading these comments because they don't know how much it hurts to hear them suggest such a thing in it's an everyday thing thank you ladies again in even though I don't know you but I love you for responding to my post

[pc010305]

There are plenty of ways for you to keep your baby and provide for him or her. Check into an organization called Crossroads Pregnancy Center. They can help you with everything. No matter what others say you can do this. Also apply to places near by you. Wait to tell them you are expecting till you have been there a little while. Good luck!

[Denise0416]

Don't abort! Don't ever let other people convince you that you won't be good enough! You can get better throughout your pregnancy, financially and all and even if you still don't think you can provide completely for your baby there is always putting the baby up for adoption. Hope everything works out and keep your head up!

[Sara_Lee87]

Keep the baby!! Don't let anyone convince  you  that you aren't capable. God only gives you what you can handle. You can do it. You already love your baby or it wouldn't be a question for you. God blessed you, that doesn't mean it is hard thougg. It's tough, no matter what age you are, and what situation there will be a challenge for you just as every parent struggles from time to time. Seek support from the community... there's people out there who want to help you and your baby you just have to put yourself out there a little bit... i want you to have your baby, be healthy, and be happy . Keep the baby its a new life and you will.never regret it.