Advice pregnant again!!!!!

[chakara1991]

Ok im 25 years old my daughter is 2 years old i just had my son he is 2 months old and i just found out that im pregnant i dont know how far i am i have not had a period since i had my son so something told me to take a pregnancy test and both of them came out positive idk what to do i just want to make the best decision i hate to say this but i did think about abortion or giving the child up for adoption because i am not stable to take care of 3 kids by myself but i just dont feel comfortable doing that i dont have nobody to talk to i just need some positive advice please......

[specialmom]

Ahh, honey.  I'm sorry you are in this predicament.  I think you are wise to understand what you can and can't handle and there is no shame in doing what is best for you hon.  You do have options.  While no one likes to think of abortion, it is one way to just move through this and not disrupt your life too much.  Another pregnancy and all that goes along with it would be very hard---  with a newborn and a two year old.  So, that is something to consider.  Adoption is always a great option too but has that downside of being public with pregnancy again and explaining it (both the pregnancy and the adoption) as well as the physical hardship of another pregnancy and labor and emotions along with that.

I feel for you as I'm sure this is a hard situation.  If you need someone to talk to, we are always here.  hugs

[chakara1991]

Thank you for the advice open adoption is my option right now

[AnnieBrooke]

If you go that route, a good agency should give you help and advice; if they do not, go to a different agency.  Or call an attorney that advertises he or she does adoption law, and ask which agencies have the best reputations.  If you do decide for sure on adoption, please know you will be giving a huge gift to the perspective parents.

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, sweetheart, it sounds like you aren't in a situation where one choice is good and the others are bad, they all have significant downsides, you have to just decide on the one that is the least bad.  In my state, adoption is "open," with the birth mother having the right to hear from the adopting family and keep track of what is happening in the child's life.  Is that enough, or would you still feel uncomfortable?  Because if abortion is out and having a third child and trying to raise all three alone is asking for a really unstable life for all of you, adoption sounds like the "least bad" choice.  There are so few healthy babies out there for people to adopt that the quality of the adoptive parents is really high.  You might talk to an agency (go to the one with the best reputation) and see what they say about open adoptions.