I don't know what to do.

[lizstefany]

So my boyfriend said he's not ready for a baby and wants me to get an abortion.  
He said because we can't afford it and that lately he's been feeling bothered by me. I don't know what to do?

[CeCe1975]

I'm pro-life so I'm always going to say keep the baby. After all it's not the babies fault. Hope you make a decision that you feel is best for you & the baby.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, how do you feel about abortion if this man is basically saying he doesn't want to have a baby and is indicating he doesn't see this as a long term relationship?  How does the idea sound to raise a baby on your own??  If it sounds okay, then begin working on a plan on how to make things to work.  If not, think about what your options are---  termination or adoption.  No shame in any choice as we are lucky we have them!!  

I get that you would have hoped for him to be excited and this to be a happy family picture but it doesn't sound like it is going to be that way.  So, picture it realistically and think about what would be best for your own future.  good luck dear

[tattedmommy2be]

A friend of mine went through the same thing. She didn't do it & just had her baby and she is so happy she didn't do it. She loves being a mom. The father of her baby tried to come around and she didn't let him sign the birth certificate or give the baby his last name nor does she let him take the baby anywhere without her. I think you should give it a lot of thought because that is a huge & difficult decision. Just think of how it will make you feel in the future and the what if's.

[Lovely_Jess]

My mom had an abortion before me because my stupid dad was a COWARD and not ready for a child for his own Selfish acts & told her to get one. She has 4 kids & still can't seem to wonder about the child that didn't get to live... She hates my father for that. He also told her to get an abortion when she was pregnant with me but I was lucky.. Since she couldn't deal with that all over again so she tried to hide it & refused to get an abortion even though he was very abusive to her. He wasn't even right for her & now she regrets listening to a guy who wasn't even worth it.. It wasn't only his child it was Hers as well & it was her decision to follow through.

[Lovely_Jess]

Don't do it :( you'll regret it so badly. It's not the baby's fault that his/her father doesn't want to man up right now. That little one is hopeless you need to be your Baby's Voice & protect him/her by letting it experience LIFE. If you don't want the baby then choose Adoption.. there's so many Woman out there who wish they could have a baby but aren't able to. They'll even pay for all your expenses throughout the pregnancy... I heard that also when you travel they'll pay & rent out a little place for you. Just please don't get an abortion

[Lynnj92]

My bf said the exact same thing I cried and prayed and told my dad with my bf said my dad told me no matter what you do ill know its the right thing for you either way ill always be there for you ever since he told me that I felt better and the entire week all I seen was babies everywhere I went and I told myself I always wish to be a mom and I got a blessing now my bf is ok with it he accepted the fact I was pregnant I think it just scared him but after he heard the babys heartbeat he cried and told me he can't wait to be a dad!

[Louise270]

Went throught the same thing sweety its big news for them and he will come around my other half did ... now we are losing our baby n he is sad cause in the end he wanted it

[Dannielle9407]

Please don't get an abortion unless you absolutely feel as if you cannot raise a child at this time. I wasn't ready to have a child either & it literally scared me to think how am I going to do this. I didn't have a lot of support..Eventually time passed and here I  am 20 days always from my due date & just the feeling so anxious to meet my little baby and I wonder all the time is she going to look like me? Will she have beautiful blue eyes ? It's just a wonderful feeling knowing your going to be a mother

[karkay3]

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[karkay3]

Let him know that you don't want to do that. It is bad for your health as well.
I was a single mom till my little man was about 8 months. Doesn't seem long but it was hard work.. his dad just was overwhelmed by the fact that it was reality now. I think it is 10 times harder for the dad to accept it. They don't have the sweet baby moving inside them.. they don't get to experience it the same. That's why it can take a while for reality to set in for them.
So let him know that you don't want an abortion (if that's what your choice is) then tell him he can either pay child support or give up his rights. And make sure it is one of those if he decides to not stick around. You don't need a guy to help you take care of your baby. Being a single mom is hard but 100% worth wcery minute of it. You can do it.

[october22_]

It's definitely your choice. Who's to say you guys will still be together even if you weren't to keep it . Look as women we deal with many obstacleS. The men have it easy and can just leave . I applaud single mothers raising their children alone . Trust me you won't be the first to go thru or and definitely not the last . Beat wishes

[ches808]

When I was 19 I let a guy talk me in to an abortion, it has haunted me since, I told myself that it'd I ever had a chance to have a baby again I will not let any one talk me out of it, I'm 39 weeks and at 10 wks my baby daddy left me cause he want ready and doesn't believe she is his. Do not allow him to make a decision for you, you're a strong lady and with our without him you can do it :)

[janelle1]

Dont do.it.girlie there are many  more option for ex adoption dont kill it  what idf your  parents have done that would nt be here. Theres so many programs and people put there to help.

[christine917]

I say if yu don't wana do it then don't do it! Its yur baby & he didn't asked to be made in the first place. If my boyfriend ever told me this I would still keep my child & do what I have to do for me& mine.

[ericah420]

My baby daddy did the same thing, i'm now 29 weeks an he's come around. He was just scared in the beginning. Keep your head up, an do what you feel is right.. don't let him manipulate you! A baby's a blessing.. you should keep it!

[tinaabinaa]

Definitely don't listen to him! I've had an abortion before and it absolutely broke me. The risk of ur future health isn't worth it.

[mrsosman8910]

If he's gonna be a jerk make him pay child support.  You don't need a man who doesn't support you and the baby. And who knows his mind may switch when he sees his child. Only get an abortion if that is what you want. Maybe even adoption if you really can't support the child?

[Josiejo08]

My ex did the same thing hun
I'm 6 weeks and he wants nothing to do with it.
You need to listen to yourself. If you don't want to have an abortion or you don't think you can go through with having one, then don't.
It's your choice, do what you think it's best for you right now.
This is gonna be hard on us but we will get through it. Message me if you want to talk I'm happy to chat :)

[jackett]

When I told my mom she told me to get an abortion I looked at her astonished the words came out her mouth .. my first appt. Hearing her say thats your little baby and its heartbeat made me so glad I did not  listen to her  its so life changing

[CHXSINGNOV]

It's not entirely up to him, it is your choice. If you're ready then go for it, he will either stick around and prove he can man up, if not well then it's his loss. I was told by my baby's father to get an abortion,  I'm very much agaisnt them and I couldn't imagine if I had one. I can't wait to me my princess, she means the world to me. It is hard being a single parent at times, but it's worth it ♡

[Tay278]

Remember we are independent women. We can take care of these babies! He doesn't sound very supportive. Believe me, I was in the same boat, scared, anxious, and then when I went to my first appointment and saw my baby and heard the heart beat it literally takes your breath away. Do what you think is right, but remember a baby is a blessing.

[17_MommyToBe_168]

Omge ! Dont poor babby its not its fault
You dont have to be with a guy like that im  17 & im pretty sure theres alote of girls who are single & still having problems but still move on! Unless he dous t want kids with you just think about it..