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Thoughts on abortion?!
I am 7 weeks pregnant, with a 1 1/2 year old and a 4 month old. I am a stay-at-home mom while I go to school part-time. My fiance goes to school full time, and works full time as a scrub tech. We can't make this hard decision to terminate or carry full term. It's so hard because we are already on the rocks with our relationship, due to no valuablentime together with the 2 kids and him working so much. We're scared that if we add a 3rd child right now while only being 22 years old, we will ruin the family we already have. Any opinions??
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Well, I'm sure you are at peace just having a decision made. Ha, yes. You'll be tired but you'll hopefully be making happy memories too. I have two kids that are 15 months apart. The early days are a little rough and yes, you're tired. But you just do what you have to do. Ask for help from family!
Hang in there and see you on the pregnancy forums!! :>) good luck hon
Hang in there and see you on the pregnancy forums!! :>) good luck hon
Thank you ladies for all of your thoughts and support in whatever decision we make. We have decided to go full term and keep the baby! Excuse me now while i go get a jug of coffee to help with my energy level as I will be one busy mom with 3 kids under 2 1/2 years old in about 7 months!! :)
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In all honesty, the women that I know that have had abortions do not regret it down the road. They may think of it with melancholy but have no regrets. Children are the best thing that happened to me but by the same token, the most expensive and difficult thing I've ever encountered. I would imagine an already parent would think very long and hard before having an abortion and when they do so, I don't think a fear of emotions down the road would come into play. Because when it is a thoughtful and not a rash decision that a woman or a couple makes for themselves, it is usually what is best for them.
I think, again, as a couple, you should sit down and really hammer this out and do what fits best to your current lifestyle. best of luck to you
I think, again, as a couple, you should sit down and really hammer this out and do what fits best to your current lifestyle. best of luck to you
Hi. I think these are very delicate issues and my heart goes out to you for reaching out to us. You both know your selves and i feel the lingering thoughts should be taken into consideration.
What will be best mentally for the both of you 10 years down the road. Having the baby put up for adoption and wondering how they are or abortion and wondering what could have been. I will say one thing that being young you have strength on your side.
Either way from you posting here i know youll make the right decision.
What will be best mentally for the both of you 10 years down the road. Having the baby put up for adoption and wondering how they are or abortion and wondering what could have been. I will say one thing that being young you have strength on your side.
Either way from you posting here i know youll make the right decision.
I agree with Specialmom. This is a huge decision but actually writing down the pros and cons is a good idea. Having 3 children under 2 years old and under is going to be so very hard. It can be done but you have to consider you and your fiances education and future.
We're always here to listen, be supportive and help in anyway we can.
We're always here to listen, be supportive and help in anyway we can.
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I just think you need to sit with your husband and do a pros and cons list. Also, most women have no issues with fertility after an abortion so this isn't your last chance in life for a baby. Please remember that. But I would sit with your husband with a pad of paper and pen and write out the good and bad to having an abortion from both of your points of view with no judgment for what is on that paper. Then read over it together. It might give you more clarity to see it written. good luck
Thank you for all of your opinions. I really appreciate it. I came here for opinions because I don't really have anyone close to me besides my fiance to talk to about it, and we both can't come up with a decision that we feel is right. If anybody possibly knows of anyone who has children and has had an abortion after already having children, please send them my way with their experience! Thank you.
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Yes, totally agree that you it is your choice. I think you are being responsible to understand that it will be even harder with another child. Think of your options and what might work best for you. Abortion is a choice that should not be judged when a woman makes it for the best interest of herself. good luck hon
I work with young children on a daily basis.I see younrg mom'swho havetheindsfullwith3,4,5 kids everyday.they re unabletotakecareofthem appropriately. don'tmakea decision based on other people's opinions. Opinionsarelike asholes everybodyhasONE Youdo whatisbestforyouandyourfamily. and to the seventheen yr old who thinks condoms are 100% effective....go back and read you sex ed. the only totallyeffective way topreventico s No sex/abstinence
You need to do what is best for you and your family. Speak to your fiance and see how he feels about it. Look at what's causing the issues between yourselves. If it's the time. See if a relative could give a hand and take your children for the night. Having an abortion is a big thing and it can't be undone afterwards. You need to look into the pros and cons. For example if you go ahead with an abortion is it going to make your problems worse and are u going to end up resenting each other. Is the abortion going to make everything better. Just remember abortion is not the only option for you. I Hooe everything goes okay for you and you figure things out. People are ok come ting on what you should and shouldn't do but remember it is your life, your body and your situation. Nobody noes the best thing to do other than you. Good luck xx
This poor woman has to deal with such a hard decision. You all need to stop givint her birth control advice. She is seeking advice from others. I'm sure she does not like the fact that she is faced with this choice, but no need to make her feel bad about it. I am not for abortion, but 3 children by 22 would be a lot. And I completely understand why you'd go through with it. Sit down and write down the pros and cons. Have a long talk with your spouce about it. I hope everything works out the way it should.
I dont think the opinions of strangers on the internet should matter much. Do whats best for you and your family, regardless of what people on this app hae to say ababout it. Maybe look for the advice and opinions of people that are close to you, that you look up to, and are valuable to you if you feel lost on a decision.
Although an abortion is something I myself dont think I could ever go through with.. It is a very personal decision. One only for you and your family you make.
My husband and I were worried about having a second baby we didn't plan on having one I always had thought there's no way I could love another baby as much as my first but now that he's here and already 1 and we're about to have our 3rd any day I cannot believe I even thought about not wanting my second. You could feel the same way once you have your baby
It's your life your baby who cares what people on this site say... they don't have to take care of your baby so due what you would like, good luck
Think you should tell yout fiance put somert on the end of it so you don't put yourself in situation like this well sly! Don't agree with abortion at ALL
Keep in mind at 7 weeks the baby already has a heart beat you would be ending the life of something so precious in my opinion I would start looking into adoption there are plenty of families who cannot conceive and would die to adopt a baby babies are gods blessing please think about it thoroughly or you might regret your decision keep your head if you decide to keep it I'm sure your family will blessed to have another little addition to the family prayers sent your way
We were not having unprotected sex. I had just started a new birth control, and we were not aware that we were not to start having sex within the first 2 weeks. Thank you for your opinion.
Its really a personal choice. Personally i would look into adoption because im anti abortion. But no matter what you decide make sure to keep the babys needs the first priority
You are going to get a lot of negative feedback on this (just to warn you) but I will say that you need to do what is best for you and your family. I myself had an abortion about 9 years ago, it was a tough decision but I never once regretted it. I am now in a much better place in my life, and my husband and I are expecting our first (a baby girl) in just 7 short weeks.
Adoption is an option too. Not just keeping it or abortion.
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