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abortion, totally against my beliefs , so confused. Any advise?

I want to continue this pregnancy , and think I'm too far to even consider it being I've seen the baby , heard the heart beat, and love this baby so much.  I'm only 8 weeks but have known since I was only 2 weeks. Should I just leave him and do it on my own or listen to him because we really are in a horrible situation with no place to live and I just lost my job????? Please help I'd like someone else's opinion besides daddy do-do head!
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973741 tn?1342342773
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Thanks for such reasonable and good advice.  
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Don't abort your baby, your situation can always change.
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You need to do what's right for you. This isn't about another woman's religious or personal beliefs, you need to do what YOU think is right and not feel guilty for your choices.

I'd reccomend calling planned parenthood or a similar service in your city to discuss your options from unbiased professionals in the proper environment.

They will give you actual advice, go over abortion procedures, adoption information, and give you advice on how to bring up baby on your own and different resources. Good luck!
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Depending where you from their is state assistance to low income family and alot of help for single moms. Look into your local wic or online for state aid! You keep your baby, your baby daddy is selfish to even consider an abortion. If he truely loved u he would want the baby. He needs to either man up or you need to toss him out! Plus even if he.chooses not to.be in babys life you can file.child support on him.  Be strong girl..keep your baby!
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I pray that God guides you into a decision that's right for you. You are in a very difficult situation. Ultimately abortion or not you're the only one who has to live with your decision so do what your heart tells you is right to avoid any regrets down the line.
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I don't judge but you can have a abortion if its what you really want  I think as far as 18 wks.
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I agree that's why I don't want to do it at all, we prayed for this blessing and now he's trying to jump ship and take us down with him . I have made up my mind and god has blessed me with what we asked for, who are we to just give it away . I have faith god has a better life in store for me and this baby i just have to hold on . Thank you for all the posts
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I was in a relationship Where the guy wanted me to abort, no family or friend support. I said **** them all all nd chose to love my baby. 4 yrs later he is treasure.  Married and another baby on the way. God has a way of working things out for u. Trust in that.
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9414151 tn?1406839268
I agree with all of them above me! Keep the bb no man soud ever come b4 ur child my bf wanted to abort all 3 of my babies n i put my foot down n said no cuz i also dont believe in it n he loves his boys! Good luck on the long journey ahead n best wishes!
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9658230 tn?1406070138
God always will work it out just think about prior situation you've went through didn't it work out, everything will work out just keep the faith and he will see you through
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7721203 tn?1468443229
you can sign up for WIC, food stamps, and medicaid.. plus so much more. just go to your local DSS, health department, etc. & ask for help.

praying for you, good luck! (((:
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Babies are blessings and God dont put you in situations that you can't handle at the end of the day you will be punished for that and have guilt in your heart things may seem down for you now but you never know what God has in store for you I say keep it and kick him to the curve
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There is housing, daycare, food and health care assistance! There are so many resources for you :) keep that baby and start pounding the pavement for a job. Good luck mama!
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Thank you guys sooo much I will continue to pray because god is ultimately in control land I'm so grateful he sent y'all to leave such encouraging comments. I was so scared to even post but so glad I did. Thank you thank you thank you I can't say it enough
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I think you already made a decision. You said you loved your baby. He or she is already yours in your mind. If you feel like you can't care for your baby, adoption is a way a birth mom shows tremendous love. If you are able to keep your little one, there will be a way somehow! :-) praying for you, momma :-)
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I am on my 2nd pregnancy with my 4th child and I still pray daily that my oldest child's bio mom doesn't regret giving her up for adoption. Just know that even if you decide  to talk to with someone at an adoption agency, you can change mind at any time. I think even up to a day or two after birth. Just make sure that whichever decision you make  is totally Yours.
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Yes Amen I don't believe in abortions wither that's just how I was raised and what I believe period I went through the same thing I broke up with my kids father and when he found out I was pregnant with our second child that will be here less then 2 weeks he wanted me to aboard him and I said no I'm not IDC if he didn't want me my children so so much more important then any man or anything in this earth its bn a rocky pregnancy but its gotten better and I thank god for the maturity it has brought me and now I'm working have bn working saving money to move out of my mothers house get back out on my own again be be completely independent prayer god and those who love u meaning family and firends around will help you through your pregnancy all children should have a chance at life they didn't ask to be here by are bad choices or by the person who isn't really for u u can do it miss don't give up god will send you someone don't make a permanent decision for a temporary situation
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9776112 tn?1406080261
Well said ^^^
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9445847 tn?1408059755
When I got pregnant with my first I was kind of in the same situation. I left my b/d because he put his hands on me including me having no job, no place to stay and a bunch of other problems on top of it. I just left. I had a bigger support system and tons of resources with out him around. I didn't believe in abortions either but I made an appt after leaving him and I never went to the appt and I'm sooo glad I didn't. My son is the most amazing person in the world. He loves me for me, because I'm his mom. There's nothing I love more then being a mom. His father has never been there for me or my son and I'm OK with that. I eventually met someone that takes my child in as his own and treats me 10x better.

Only you can make your decision and I. think whatever you decide wwill be the best. Only u know your situation. I thought about being lonely and missing my sons father but I realized what I had with out him and its so much more than I imagined.
Good luck sweetheart I hope god guides you thru this and can help shine some light on it for you. ♥ I will pray for you.
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You can ur child to a family who can afford to take care of a child. Im not telling u what to do.. please just anything but abortion :'(
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9536744 tn?1414122031
My opinion is if you love it and want it then keep it. You have time to get another job and start saving and looking for a place if hes not up for getting a job or looking for a better one then hes not worth your time...
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Do not have an abortion if it isn't your decision and your totally comfortable with it. If you do it for someone else you will regret it. That has to be a decision you make on your own for yourself to be able to live with it. If you don't feel like it's the best thing, DON'T DO IT not for anyone. Keep your baby if you feel that's right. There are options and there is help.
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U ever tried adoption maybe?..
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