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abortion?
Im 6 weeks pregnant. I have a doctors appointment Feb 6. My boyfriend has two kids and is on child support for both. He really wants me to get an abortion. But I lost my first child Aug 28. He was stillborn. Today I scheduled for an abortion and that appointment is Feb 5. Since I will be 9 weeks it will cost me 550. My insurance doesnt cover it, and I didnt qualify for the assistance. I've been crying all day. I really dont want to get an abortion. I don't know what to do.
If you don't want to do it don't do it. This is your choice, it's your body. I could never do it. All you have to do is understand you will have someone depending on you and you may not be able to depend on the dad.
do what you feel is best for you, its your body, your baby and his problem for getting other women knocked up. I could never give up my baby girl ♥♡,
*for it *is sorry so many typos
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By the way, I suspect this post will get moved to a choice forum where you can openly talk about abortion without any shame and judgment. Even if it doesn't end up what you want to do, it's nice to discuss it as something that is on the table as one of your options without any right or wrong attached to it. It's really about having options, which you have and finding the one that is best for you. peace sweetie and big hugs
Do what's best for you at the end of the day you have to live with yourself please thank it over hard and carefully i had one and i am going through therapy facebook it every week because that's how much it effected me i have a beautiful daughter and a son on their way in less than a month yet the pain I'd still there
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Lots of women do have abortions and are happy with that decision. It's a choice that we have as women. No one should have a baby they don't want. You sound like you are torn. No one can or should force you to get an abortion. That's a very personal choice Again, it can be the right one for someone.
I think what you need to do is sit down and think about this for yourself. You have options of keeping the baby. Write down the pros and cons of this. Adoption. Again, think of the pros and cons. And then termination, pros and cons. Money should not ever be a deciding factor on abortion. I would maybe check also with Planned Parenthood. They don't want a women to be priced out of having this procedure. And I'm sure your boyfriend if he is serious about your having an abortion would be willing to pay all or at least half. But again, that's only if it is what you want to do.
Very few people have complications post abortion. It's a simple procedure and especially at the point you are at in pregnancy. Don't let anyone scare you.
Do what is best for YOU because that is what this is about. You and what you can handle right now, what you want, etc. good luck hon
I think what you need to do is sit down and think about this for yourself. You have options of keeping the baby. Write down the pros and cons of this. Adoption. Again, think of the pros and cons. And then termination, pros and cons. Money should not ever be a deciding factor on abortion. I would maybe check also with Planned Parenthood. They don't want a women to be priced out of having this procedure. And I'm sure your boyfriend if he is serious about your having an abortion would be willing to pay all or at least half. But again, that's only if it is what you want to do.
Very few people have complications post abortion. It's a simple procedure and especially at the point you are at in pregnancy. Don't let anyone scare you.
Do what is best for YOU because that is what this is about. You and what you can handle right now, what you want, etc. good luck hon
If u don't wanna get an abortion, then don't. He needs to man up and take responsibility. He can't force u to get one. If I were in ur shoes, I'd tell him to screw off and leave his ***. NEVER would I ever get an abortion to stay with a man. I hope u don't go through with it. :-(
Its your choice but if i were you i wouldnt do it. give him or her a chance to live you know how it feels to lose a baby think of this new baby as another chance your getting at being a mom if your boyfriend doesnt want the baby leave him is his lost there are places that help single moms.. ADOPTION is another option that you have trust me you will regret it if you do it.. a man that makes you get an abortion knowing is not what you want is not worth it or loves you i had a stillborn baby it took me over 7 years to get pregnant again i thought it would never happen you are lucky that it you got pregnant fast.. I KNOW PEOPLE WHO NEVER GOT PREGNANT AFTER HAVING AN ABORTION PLEASE THINK ABOUT IT. I REALLY HOPE YOU GIVE YOUR BABY A CHANCE..
Do what you think is best for you. None of us will be there to help you raise your child. Just know that it's up to you beautiful don't be ashamed to follow your heart. But remember a baby is a blessing.
My bf wanted me to get one and i refused
This is similar to something that happened to me. I also had a still boren last year. It was the worst thing i have been through my entire life couple of months later me and my bf separated and latee i found out i was expecting another baby of his. He suggested i get abortion, and i was difficult for me to not consider it since i didn't want to risk going through another tragedy. But i knew god was watching over me and i could not purposely take my babies life away it was not in me and now im 29 weeks my ex and i didn't speak for a while after that. Now he wants to be a father to this baby and is concerned with everything that i do and want to do with the baby. I know women get abortions for many reasons but do not do it for some guy. Men there are many but your kids are not replaceable.
I wouldn't advise anyone to get an abortion.. Year before I had an abortion and it was the worst thing I ever did..actually seeing a little life u ended...I was so depressed for weeks it was horrible..now I'm 24 weeks pregnant again and im so happy I kept my baby this time.. Girl keep ur baby..it's you that will live with the guilt and everything...to hell with your man
You sound like you want this baby. Your boyfriend does not give a crap about you if he did he would not ask you to do this. That other woman has her two kids but he wants you to kill yours when you want it. Does that really sound like a guy that cares for you or anyone but himself for that matter.
My mom had an abortion before she had me. When I was 12 or so she asked what I thought about abortion and I reacted badly which I still do about the subject. She burst into tears and I knew, I thought I was dreaming and never thought my wonderful mother could kill her tiny baby. I could not bring myself to comfort her after she told me and I never looked at her the same. She was always sad, depressed and crying she tried to hide it. She tried multiple times to commit suicide because she could not live with her self and she was like that till the day she died, more than 18 years after having the abortion. It effected the rest of her life and my entire childhood and until I was 12 I did not know why my mother was so messed up and always hid how sad she was.
Think about your baby and yourself. Your son or daughter needs you to have a chance at life. Could you really live with yourself if you chose a sorry excuse for a man over your own child. You don't really sound like you can and I would hate to think of a woman going through what I had to see my mom go through. You can have this baby with or without him and don't think that if you kill your baby it will make him want you or stay with you. Raising a baby by yourself is not ideal but it is more than possible, lots of women do. Think about how much this child will love you and needs you. You are strong and will be just fine and can make him pay for this child even if he don't want it. He wants you to fix his mistake and him get away free and clear, that is not fair to you or your baby. You know what is right for you and what you want to do and their is help out there. Good luck hun.
My mom had an abortion before she had me. When I was 12 or so she asked what I thought about abortion and I reacted badly which I still do about the subject. She burst into tears and I knew, I thought I was dreaming and never thought my wonderful mother could kill her tiny baby. I could not bring myself to comfort her after she told me and I never looked at her the same. She was always sad, depressed and crying she tried to hide it. She tried multiple times to commit suicide because she could not live with her self and she was like that till the day she died, more than 18 years after having the abortion. It effected the rest of her life and my entire childhood and until I was 12 I did not know why my mother was so messed up and always hid how sad she was.
Think about your baby and yourself. Your son or daughter needs you to have a chance at life. Could you really live with yourself if you chose a sorry excuse for a man over your own child. You don't really sound like you can and I would hate to think of a woman going through what I had to see my mom go through. You can have this baby with or without him and don't think that if you kill your baby it will make him want you or stay with you. Raising a baby by yourself is not ideal but it is more than possible, lots of women do. Think about how much this child will love you and needs you. You are strong and will be just fine and can make him pay for this child even if he don't want it. He wants you to fix his mistake and him get away free and clear, that is not fair to you or your baby. You know what is right for you and what you want to do and their is help out there. Good luck hun.
Um I'm sorry But **** him and give him a third baby to put on child support then. Don't do something you don't want to do just Cause he can't handle the responsibility. That's your body, your baby too. Not just his.
God gave you this baby for a reason don't take baby life away because your boyfriend don't want the baby cause the baby feels everything they do to the baby even though they say they don't they do
I got an abortion once and let me tell you I regret it! If you don't want it don't do it he should have been protected if he didn't want anymore kids you will live with regret your whole life if you get an abortion
Don't do it!!! You are the one carrying the baby and goes through everything with that beautiful blessing. Its your choice, if you don't want to don't, you will regret it more than anything. This is your life. You can do this on your own if you have to momma! And I would be very upset if my fiance ever mentioned an abortion you laid in bed with me now take responsibility along with me.
I agree^^ follow your heart. Don't pay attention to some of these negative Nancy's. Things happen we all know it.
I think in your heart you already know your decision. Follow YOUR heart not a boyfriend's wishes. Best wishes.
I understand where your coming from. If you really don't want to it please don't! You will live with regret forever. Try to breathe and calm down. You don't have to make this decision today or tomorrow. I know your mans opinion is going to impact you but try to think about just yourself in this case. Babies are expensive but it is possible I promise you. Hang in there hun
If its not what u want dont do it. I was forced (munipulated) into an abortian by my ex partner when i was 16 it was the worst day of my life =( i will never forget it or forgive myself for it. I really didnt want to abort and i wish i could go back to that day and stand up for myself. Please dont make a choice u dont want to cause u will think about it ur whole life what if or why did i. Goodluck
Here let me tell you from experience.
I had an abortion in 2012 I didn't want to have it but my mom made me do it. I promise I was depressed that whole year I also couldn't tell anyone because I didn't want to get judged. But up to this day it still bothers me because I wonder what the sex of the baby was. Now there was a flip side I was able to finish school and have a great job. But that doesn't cover up a death of an innocent child. There is a lot of help for pregnant women you just have to look for it. You can RAISE a child on your own. Your not the first or the last.
I really hope this helped. If you ever need to talk we are all here for you
I had an abortion in 2012 I didn't want to have it but my mom made me do it. I promise I was depressed that whole year I also couldn't tell anyone because I didn't want to get judged. But up to this day it still bothers me because I wonder what the sex of the baby was. Now there was a flip side I was able to finish school and have a great job. But that doesn't cover up a death of an innocent child. There is a lot of help for pregnant women you just have to look for it. You can RAISE a child on your own. Your not the first or the last.
I really hope this helped. If you ever need to talk we are all here for you
An abortion is not a form of birth control if kids were not wanted then protection should have been used don't kill the child that had no say in being conceived give the baby up for adoption there are too many women that want babies and can't have them
If you don't want to get rid of the baby then don't. If he can't respect that then you gotta reassess who he cares about. Good luck. :)
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