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22 and no sex drive!
I am 22 and i have 3 kids that are 3, 2 and 1. i have no sex drive and cant have an orgasim for nothing!!! I am so depressed from it. i am on proxac and clonopins. i know that could have somehting to do with it but i am suppose to have a total hysteroctomy asap! please someone out there do you know whta i can do to get my sex drive up?!
3,2 and one, as well as the meds are the reason you have no sex drive. Antidepressants are notorious for killing it not to mention the exhaustion from caring for 3 young children. Tell your doctor about this and ask your gyno to run a hormone panel for starters.
You are doing great. I have four kids, they are bigger now, but at the young age they took everything from me, it is a natural phase to go through and very normal and common.
When they were under four we would get into bed and /sometimes/ my husband would put his arm around me I would have to say 'sorry please do not touch me' I was completely touched out, I always had my kids in my arms all day long + was a full on breast feeder. you just get worn out. If you can (not always easy) take a little break, even a long bath. Everything you are giving your children now will come back loads, everything you are putting in will come back to you, I promise
He is still here married since 1987, + things improve ;-) we still have the 'hots' for each other.
When they were under four we would get into bed and /sometimes/ my husband would put his arm around me I would have to say 'sorry please do not touch me' I was completely touched out, I always had my kids in my arms all day long + was a full on breast feeder. you just get worn out. If you can (not always easy) take a little break, even a long bath. Everything you are giving your children now will come back loads, everything you are putting in will come back to you, I promise
He is still here married since 1987, + things improve ;-) we still have the 'hots' for each other.
Thanks bulldozer! I am glad someone understands me and where im coming from! It is hard and sometimes my husband comes home and i say look you clean im resting hes like what have you done today i say i am hurting the kids have drove me crazy either clean or the house will stay like this! LOL..i have a neat freak husband so of course he cleans!!
Its damn hard work bringing up kids, especially 3 so young but it does get easier, mine are 14, 12, 11 and 7 now. It's a whole different set of challenges but at least I get some sleep!
With everything else that is going on with you gynae wise I think you are doing fantastically well. The trouble with us women is we think we have to be superwomen and the truth is we don't have to. So don't be hard on yourself.
I hope you manage to get that coloscopy done soon.
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With everything else that is going on with you gynae wise I think you are doing fantastically well. The trouble with us women is we think we have to be superwomen and the truth is we don't have to. So don't be hard on yourself.
I hope you manage to get that coloscopy done soon.
:-)
Thank you Therese - you are right, this thread is about offering support and advice to a young woman who is worried. I'm glad you could understand where I was coming from with regard to certain comments only giving this lady added worry.
What you are describing is perfectly normal. I had 3 children under the age of 3 (I now have 4) and my sex drive was virtually non existent for years. The prozac can also impact on your libido, that plus you are obviously having other gynae issues which are messing your hormones up. Don't be hard on yourself. Your libido will come back once you are in a better place physically and emotionally.
El Dave - I'm sorry but I really don't see how telling this lady that you went off and found a younger model is going to help! I would hope that ellismom's husband is far more supportive and understanding.
El Dave - I'm sorry but I really don't see how telling this lady that you went off and found a younger model is going to help! I would hope that ellismom's husband is far more supportive and understanding.
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OMG with three kids spaced out like that it is normal to feel 'touched out' by the end of the day. Any Mom will tell you that + add in the medication a recipe for low sex drive.
It will come back as the kids grow!
OMG with three kids spaced out like that it is normal to feel 'touched out' by the end of the day. Any Mom will tell you that + add in the medication a recipe for low sex drive.
It will come back as the kids grow!
its the meds!!
and you are under alot of pressure, being so young with 3 small kids....thats a job
you might have better luck with mental health, you need a second opinion
maybe join a moms social group, in your area, a group that meets with the kids once a week at the park and then has a monthly moms night out
this has helped me
and you are under alot of pressure, being so young with 3 small kids....thats a job
you might have better luck with mental health, you need a second opinion
maybe join a moms social group, in your area, a group that meets with the kids once a week at the park and then has a monthly moms night out
this has helped me
Oh i c...i do deal with my OBGYN. i have medicaid so i can get a regular doc now but my OB takes care of me just like a reg doc would that is why i havent tried a doc. But i couldnt last 10 years!! i can barelly last a month! i guess im a nympho...lol...
SSRI's a group of drugs, which includes Prozac, from what I know - Wellbutrin which is sorta close to Prozac might be better for you and an easy switch from meds. Don't waste your time on those "natural" libido products, before I went off Cymbalta, I hadn't had on orgasm in years!! (we're talking 10+yrs) My GP said basically suck it up, your depression has more importance. I'm now on a different class of meds, and yippeeee it's back, lol but my new boyfriend doesn't live close enough *winks*, he's a very happy man ;). I'm on a mood stabilizer instead. I do have to ask you, do you just deal with your family doctor or do you have a "shrink"?
Hey thanks for the reply! What is a SSRI? My doc actally told me to go to GNC and get something that would increase my sex drive so i am goin to try that i hope its not a waste of money! I cant quit takin my meds or i wold be crazier!! LOL...anways they told me to take something for menopause so idk....
Yeps meds play a big part in it, klonopin can kill it. As well on top of the meds, your hormones may be out of wack, especially after having children. There isn't anything available on the market yet that has been approved, I'm sorry to say, and SSRI's are notorius libido killers :(
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