Boyfriend goes soft when we get intimate

[triangle101]

My boyfriend cant stay hard when we start to have sex or oral sex and its really strange because we have been together for about a year and this hadn't really happened before now. We have talked about it and he says that there is no reason for this to happen as he is not worried that it will happen before we get intimate and that nothing has changed and I don't think that it is due to his health as we are young, fit and live a healthy lifestyle.
I am trying to be really supportive and as nice about it as I can but it is making me feel as though we are not as close as we used to be as I feel that sex is a really good way to make you feel closer to your partner but as we can't it kind of feels like we are missing out on that. Also it is having quite an impact on my confidence which is normally very high, I know I'm good looking and that he still thinks I am but I find myself thinking that it must be my fault in part or that I'm not trying hard enough. I really really don't know what to do and it is really upsetting me so any advice would be gladly appreciated. Thanks.

[triangle101]

Thank you so much...what did you do to get round it when you knew what the problem was? Would you say that there is anything the girl can do except be nice and understanding?

[baby_hopes]

Hi ! The thing is, he may say he's not worried about it, but i'm sure he is...its a huge let down for a guy to not be able to get hard..... The first time, maybe he was tired or his head was slihgtly elsewhere...but after that, he is probably concentrating on it not happenning again so much that he goes limp....stress can do crazy things to your body....I had a boyfriend that would ejaculate almost instantly while having sex, he even went to the doctors to ask about it (must have been so embarassing) anyways, that's what the doctor said that he was concentrating on it NOT happening so much, that it did....