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Hymen
hello, could you tell me. does the hymen exist in this photo.am i a virgin? How ican add picture
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thank you very much for your efficiency. no there is no penetration or anything. I just wanted to make sure the hymen is okay.
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Your hymen would be "okay" if you were born with an obvious one or a wispy one. It's a small membrane, only endowed with significance by the emotional baggage people have historically put on it. Of *course* yours is OK, no matter what it looks like -- thick, thin, pushed aside, broken or intact.
I should add, if you are living in a patriachy where it would be dangerous for you not to have an obvious, intact hymen, you could mention to any person who thinks they have a right to ask, that you have used tampons for your periods for years. That way, you are covered, if you don't bleed on your wedding night or if some examination seems to suggest you don't have enough of a hymen. And, there is the old trick of hiding a pin in the bed on your wedding night, and poking yourself so you bleed. (A lot of virgins don't bleed their first time, so if you are in the difficult position of needing to prove virginity this way, the pin trick is worth knowing.) The emphasis on a bride being a virgin is an obsolete and kind of insulting notion and hardly worth dignifying with this kind of response, except that I do know in some parts of the world the woman would actually be in trouble if she was deemed to not be a virgin. If you're in this spot, those are my suggestions.
Also, a link:
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22718-hymen
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22718-hymen
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First off, some women have thinner hymens and some have more obvious hymens -- hymens don't all look alike. Some women are born with just a wisp of a membrane there and others are different, some to the point where there isn't even an adequate opening to let out menstrual fluid, though that is rare. Have you googled "photos of hymen" to see if yours resembles any of those in the photos? There will also be medical drawings showing a hymen.
More important, why are you asking if you are a virgin? Did you partake in some activity that you think might have ruptured your hymen? (Given, again, that it was there in the first place to be ruptured. A lot of modern activity -- when I was a girl, the activity named was horseback riding -- can break the hymen. Though today [and even back then], the activity was more likely to be tampon use.)
The definition of being a virgin is whether a penis has ever gone into your vagina. It's not a clinical definition based on the hymen being torn (such as you could see in a picture) as much as it is a cultural definition, based on someone's penis going fully into a woman's vagina. The reason it was important historically is that men didn't want some other guy to be first into the body of their innocent bride. (And, probably, because they would be worried any baby would not be from them, and also possibly because they wouldn't want her to have any way to compare them as lovers to someone else.) Obviously that's all a laden minefield in terms of a definition. It ignores that the woman might have masturbated, or that she might have had an encounter with another guy who didn't penetrate her with his penis but used his tongue or fingers. (Somehow in this, a woman's own fingers don't seem to count as a threat, another man's fingers might count a little more, but not quite enough to make the woman be deemed to have lost her virginity. The biggie in the definition of a woman being a virgin is whether a man's penis went in.)
Modern culture doesn't expect women to be virgins when they are married. There is a (very uneven in the world) awareness that if men don't have to be virgins women don't either. In a heavily patriarchial country or religious subculture (such as some in the Mideast), it can still be dangerous or life-threatening for a woman to be discovered to have had a lover before she got married. But in most places it isn't like that today.
Are you worried about something you did with someone, and if that changes your description of your status?