Hi, I'm a 16 year old lesbian in the Midwest. My girlfriend and I were about to have sex but she couldn't find my clitoris? (And she's been with a couple other girls before, so she should know where it is)
I hadn't given it much thought before, so I looked up some diagrams and even a couple of irl pictures, but I could never find anything.
Now, I do have something that looks kind of like a clitoral hood, but it is short, thin, spread far apart, and does not even connect at the top. The area in between the two pieces is completely flat and when I touch it I feel nothing. It seems kinda like it was underdeveloped in the womb or I was circumcised or something.
And a second related question: if it turns out that I don't have one, can I still have sex and orgasm? I am deeply terrified of penetration (part of the reason I'm a lesbian) and I want to know what more I can do. Thank you so much!