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Is my girlfriend making up her pregnancy!?!?!

My girlfriend is 17 years old. She said she was pregnant to me about 3 months ago. I had no reason to doubt her although she never showed proof and never did anything to show me she was actually pregnant. I believed her. She said she had two pregnancy tests and such... but she refused to go to a doctor visit and she wouldn't let me take her to be seen. She finally started going to visits but always somehow avoided me going with her to the doctor and went with her friend.

I never thought much of it until my friends said "how do you know she isn't just bull sh*ting everything". I started to question the whole thing. She txted me not too long after (because she said she was
"in pain and couldn't move... she was bleeding a little".
She said she supposedly
"went in to the doctor before you woke up this morning and they found a cyst that might be cancerous".

So I of course was worried. Well not to long after she has an (QUOTE) """""" abortion """""" without telling me... she was acting fine and up walking around. But I hear sometimes it's normal to feel ok after. She said she was bleeding heavy and hurt all the time...

Anyway... she is telling me NOW that I ask about the cyst.. she said
"oh.. they had that removed at the same time they did the abortion"... umm OK!? What the hell not even telling me?


HERE IS THE FULL OUTLINED STORY... I need advice please...


She and I were having issues at the time before she told me she was pregnant. She was telling me all the time how she "wants a baby" and such. She had a class on raising babies and such in her school.. she was SOOOO into the baby thing telling me how she wants one but knows "we aren't ready". She was getting those babies from school that will teach her how to take care of a baby.. they were supposed to come like a month after she told me she was first pregnant.

Well she for some God awful reason thought I was "talking" to some other girl. We kinda talked a bit about it and such, then that same day she breaks down crying telling me she had a pregnancy test (she had been "vomiting" for like a week before and I was kinda suspicious also). I never saw the test... just her word. I cried with her and told her I'd be there to take her to the appointments. She refused to go to a DR at all.. for about a month and a half. She didn't really even want to talk about the pregnancy that much at first. She said she "forgot to take the pill that one day we were intimate a while ago".

Finally she said she went to the DR (her friend took her.) She went THREE times.. each time I said "let me take you".. and she would always go on days I was either working or before I got up in the morning and she wouldn't tell me about the appointments.. only said "I went". (like she was trying to keep me happy with he thought she was going to the DR.) She even said she had an ultrasound but never showed me.

One day she said she was in horrible pain and such (little bleeding) I was worried as hell about it.. and she wasn't upset at all didn't even want to go to the hospital. I told her that night that if she was still bad the next morning I would take her to the hospital. What does she do? Has her friend "take" her again in the morning before I even get up. I was hellof upset about the fact she didn't consult me to take her like I wanted. I was mad.... and this was when she introduced the "cyst" which changed me from mad to concerned. (good timing in my eyes). She is about 2/3 months along at this point.

Next she tells me she is thinking about having an abortion and such and that she got "info" from the DR for it. She tells me that she saw this advertisement for an anti-abortion add where the baby was getting injected with this stuff to kill it and she said that is what they would do if she got one. She never acted like she had cared about the babies health in the first place.. she wouldn't even get vitamins for her pregnancy.. I even bought her some but never took em. She told me she was ok and didn't need them.

Next thing I know she is crying again and telling me how she is an "awful girlfriend and that I should break up with her for what she has done".. she tells me that like four days ago she had had an abortion... yet we had gone to movies, arcades and such in the time between when she got one till she told me. (ALARM IN MY HEAD WENT OFF). What a good way to end a lie... right? Yeah. Well she told me she had an appointment follow-up with her DR on tuesday (a day I work....) I told her I was skipping work to take her. Well... we hungout Monday and she conveniently never got a confirmation call on her cell for the appointment.. so she "didn't want to go in if they didn't have her scheduled". I told her to make a new appointment date. She never did till this day. Conveniently.

For crying out loud one day she is telling me how much pain she is still in from the abortion (like a week after supposedly) then about four days later (so like two weeks after the abortion).. she was being intimate with me.... I thought you had to wait about 6 weeks to be intimate... yeeeeaaaahhh (another alarm went off today when I thought of that). Plus the fact that I never saw the $350 that is supposedly cost get taken out of her account... she still had the same amount of money in her account before and after I think.

It's just kinda fishy from beginning till end... but yet she talked about it as if it were true.. she came at me with facts like "we can still be intimate till the third trimester" and such.

I just think it was a good way in her head to keep me with her if she really thought I was "talking" to another girl.. not only that... but since she had had nothing but abusive relationships before I entered her life... it was a good way to ensure I said with her.. and then the abortion was a perfect way to end the lie.. cuz it was getting out of hand.

I know this isn't a site for advice like this.. but I'm just looking for incite from women who have actually BEEN pregnant and such to see what they think about it all. Ugh. I am def going to talk with her... soon.
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I'm with the others - get away.... regardless if she was/is/ or even still trying to get, pregnant - she's not behaving in a way that promotes trust.  If you cant talk to her or believe what she is telling you - then you shouldnt be with her.  It seems to me that her story is more holey than the pope - and I can tell you from a medical point of view, that a termination would nearly always be separate to any other procedure required. (Ethical practice requires it).
Unfortunately in this world, some men and some women cannot be trusted. Steer clear of them, and definitely dont have babies with them! lol
Furthermore, if she's so insecure that she does this kind of thing in response to you talking to another woman, then she is not in the right head space to be with anyone - she needs to sort her own issues out.
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308148 tn?1225034358
Run away.
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524756 tn?1226098560
Get away while you can. An abortion procedure has absolutely nothing to do with cancerous cysts. She would have had to have a biopsy done on the cyst to tell if it was cancerous and then would have had to have a laparotomy to have it removed. Which would probably be followed up by radiation therapy to ensure all the cancerous cells are dead. There are WAY too many holes in her story. Run, before she really does pin you into the relationship with a real baby.
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13167 tn?1327194124
Trevor,  actually,  this  is a perfect site to discuss this.

I think you should run fast and far from her and never look back.


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i agree with quinns momma...they wouldn't remove a cyst at the same time as an abortion. it's not one of those things that they say "ya know while were in there....". it could be she convieniently had the"abortion" at 2/3 months because she knew she couldn't keep up the "pregnancy". orrrrrrr she really did. but if she avoided going to the doctors with you....i'd be suspicious to. and for the pregnancy to come about the same time you guys were having issues....sounds a bit fishy. i'd say take a break from her before she really does end up pregnant.

oh and btw missing ONE pill won't cause you to get pregnant that day if she was taking them regularly like she was supposed to. even on the package it says to just double up the next day or to take the pill as soon as your realize you missed it.
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212720 tn?1304375415
It seems that she got freaked about the idea of you talking to this other girl and figured a fake pregnancy would keep u around. It does not seem to me that she was ever pregnant. Nor would a cyst be removed during a procedure for an abortion. That is not the type of procedure that is needed for an actual cyst removal. She would also have to fillow up with an oncologist if she did have a cancerous cyst. So she also lied about that.

She is manipulating you. Break it off with her before she starts spinning even more lies. You seem like a caring smart young man and there is a wonderful girlfriend out there for you. Word of advice use a condom!!

Take care of yourself!!
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boy that was a lot! its very long and i didnt read it all i stoped after the long """"""" 's. anyways i dont think theres anyway to really tell if shes pregnant because you cant like look into her medical history.

if you dont beleive her (clearly you dont) then leave her or just dont have sex with her so she cant say all of these things again.

she should know that having a baby will not make you stay its likely to make you go the opposite way!
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