I love my partner, he is my world, and I am so attracted to him. We used to have sex all the time, including foreplay, but now it has reduced to once a week if that, and it is often the case that one of us never reaches orgasm. Firstly, I think that maybe the two of us are subconsciously preoccupied with worries surrounding my depression which has recently been very up-and-down.
But the main problem is my clitoris. Even when I am aroused and ready for sex, when he touches it it feels like he is touching my urethra, if you can imagine it? I tense up and I feel like I need the toilet. It's really bad, it makes me jolt and twitch, and sometimes I try really, really hard to ignore it and relax but every single time I find myself pushing his head away and it always ends the same - me crying in bed.
I ask him to move further down but obviously as it is nowhere near my clitoris I never reach orgasm. It's getting me down, I miss that connection. We're still happy of course and very in love, but I just miss that feeling.
It's too sensitive for him to touch, basically. No matter how ready I am, it is uncomfortable. Is it psychological? Is it physical? I miss him, I miss us. It's sad. Please help??