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Vagina too tight!!! Someone help!!!

Hi, i was wondering how to make the vagina just a little bit less tight. I know a lot of people tell me that guys like it when its tight, but mine is just a little bit too much. Whenever I have sex it takes my boyfriend a while to get in me and i almost always end up getting a tear because of it.I was wondering if there is any exercise or somthing that anyone might know about that decreases the tightness?? Thanks in advance!!
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The vagina is made to stretch enormously (think childbirth) but only under certain conditions. Simply, the more aroused you are, the more stretchy the vagina becomes. If your partner isn't hugely turning you on, you shouldn't be having sex with that person, at least at that time. It should go without saying that women deserve sexual enjoyment as much as men, and need to stop seeing the problem as necessarily something inherently wrong with their bodies when it's really incompatibility or infection (which can be passed from the partner, who needs to be treated so he stops infecting you) or mental/emotional issues based in past experience. And women really need to stop martyring themselves for the sake of their partner's pleasure. (Ask yourself, would your partner do the same?)
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I am a 40 years lady,who has been a virgin until last year November.
I had to dis virgin myself with my hands when i could not undergo a cervical  cancer test because of the pains i experienced during the examination.
I feel pains during sex, inability for full penetration during sex,little rough muscle tissue in the vaginal. My boy have tried to go full penetration into my vagina during sex but wont let him because of pain and cannot trust when he is on full penetration.
What can i do i currently live in UK.
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Me and my boyfriend have had sex like everyday but today just isn't the same my vagina is super tight and really sore can someone please help me .
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Hey. You might have pelvic inflamation. I had it before. Its horrible. If you don't get checked out. It will not be good. I had bed rest for 2 weeks and toms of pain medicine. Like tons to the point. Where my ex (who is an addict glad out of that relationship) wanted my medication for money. PID is dangerous. I had it for over 3 month period. Didn't notice until I woke up screaming. Anyways. Get checked out. Now I am unable to have children. Because PID and Over active sytes on the ovaries.
Research vaginismus (find Gyne trained or having had patients with this issue) . From personal experience most docs don't know about this and have looked confused even tho they used their medical terminology knowledge to determine it meant tight pelvic muscles/spasmimg pelvic muscles.
I got really lucky tho and eventually found a doc to refer me to a pelvic floor physical therapist who used manual stretching along with telling me to use dilators at home. It took time but eventually trained myself to relax and to learn to accept insertion of even the largest sized dilator! If you don't have as much money or good insurance to see these specialists I would recommend looking up the condition yourself and what has helped other people and trying it yourself (tho dilators are what they usually recommend).
Stick with it and the rewards are... well you can guess :)
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I had this issue at the start of my relationship with my boyfriend of 6+ years. I would be so tight it hurt us both. It turns out it was a phsycological problem rather than physioligical. Even though I thought I was comfortable there was something stopping me from being completely relaxed which meant I was tense down there. We managed to get past this by some mental preparation.  We would take things slow, kiss etc and build up to it, get naked and take deep slow breaths. Once a bit more relaxed he would get ready to enter me from on top and whisper sweet things in my ear and slowly slide in. It may seem like hassle but it made each time so passionate and really felt like 'making love'. After a while the problem went away and 6 years on we still have the most amazing sex.
I hope my experience can help you.
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My vagina was my problem. I’ve had a lot of sex growing up but I don’t think that’s the reason..I could’t ask my friends about it because we’re too close and it would be embarrassing, I decided to come on here.. after came here i heard about the myotaut from google. Myotaut serum is one of the best way to make vagina lips smaller again I also recently purchased this product about a month ago, it is been great. I’m surprised that it really works.
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Sounds like you haven't been in sexually active very long. Or just starting out. Comfortable sex takes patience and understanding on both parties. Always have him go down on you until you climax first. That will loosen it up a bit. Then Use plenty of lube and get on top that way you can control the angle and depth of penetration. Just hope he can hold out
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I guess I feel a bit better that it isn't just me. We tried for the third time tonight to have sex and all this time I thought it was the condom causing problems but now we think I am just too tight. I'm so disheartened and I honestly started to cry a little bit. I want to be with him sexually but I just don't know what else to do. I get pretty wet and the condoms we were using are lubricated, so I didn't think we'd need lube. But maybe that will help. I'm not sure. :\
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Hey see my response to others on this post. Lube is everything lol in my case and I spend more money to get a good quality, glycerin free lube (why glycerine free? Because glycerine can increase chances of you getting a yeast infection down there so better to avoid it!) and I also have had a condition called vaginismus. If you have the option to see a pelvic floor physical therapist or a gynecologist I would wholeheartedly recommend that since that's what I did and I felt more confident but other vaginismus patients have done it successfully themselves. Dilators have worked for many of them and that's what both the medical professionals suggested to me and I used that too and was able to train my muscles to relax and accept even the largest sized dilator (I had to start from the smallest and work my way up tho). It takes time and might feel weird since the dilators like dildos... but if you do it right and stick with it and be patient (no need to traumatize your muscles by rushing to the largest size) and only progress to the next size when you are sure you can handle it, you can start relaxing down there. Good luck!
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