I haven't got herpes which is a relief however the pain an 'cut' are still there :/ when I went back to see the dr in the clinic after my results he said he couldn't see a cut or ulcer as he put it anymore just a bit of red were I pointed to but I had not really tried to engage in sexual activity except once since being tested for herpes and the 'cut' always seems more prominent and painful after sex. He said come back in two months and he would refer me to the vulva specialist for biopsy and it was a trauma from sex and to use more lube. I use plenty of lube anyway and sexual traumas don't last for 9 months surely? I looked today as I had a sex yesterday (which could not last too long because of the pain) and in a fold round my hymn area/vaginal opening there is a yellow bit which is where the pain is :( I feel isolated and alone with this and a bit like I'm going mad it is really there and is sore, I don't want to wait another 2 months as this is having a devastating effect on my self esteem body image and my relationship it makes me insecure I don't even get that horny any more because sex is always related to pain during or afterward. I also bleed during sex 9/10 times none of this can be normal surely? whats wrong with me!?! My partner thinks it is them and is affecting their self esteem too :/ I feel like I keep coming to a dead end and I'm really frustrated, upset and angry with myself why me?? I'm only 29 and don't want to live with this forever or lose my partner because of it! I'm lost and feel like no one takes me seriously and ill be stuck with this forever! I've also tried to ignore it and try to desensitise the area as drs make me think its all in my head but it gets no better... I really don't want to live with this!!!
Thank you I have since been the Clinic and they tested and treated for herpes although the sore has never completely healed for 8 months which the nurse said is not consistant with herpes. I am awaiting my results and have to go bk in 3 weeks for further examination if the meds given do not work. The dr I am going to see is an sti and skin specialist so hopefully I will be able to get some answers :) it was just nice to be heard which is something I have never felt at my gp surgery. Thank u so much for your response it has been driving me mad I will keep u informed :) thank u again
Hello,
For such symptoms any vaginal fissure or vaginal fistula should be ruled out. Fistula is an abnormal connection between two epithelium-lined organs that normally do not connect. It presents as an open hole or a cut near the anus on examination and the patient has the symptoms of external opening, bleeding, swelling or pain.
It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.