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Vasectomy 16 years ago

I had a vasectomy 16 years ago in 1993. I never went back to get checked, but have had unprotected sex for all this time with noone getting pregnant. I got remarried 4 years ago and we separated for awhile but have been back together for 3 months and she has gotten her period every month. She took a pt and it read positive. She swears Im the only person shes been with in the last 3 months and before that one guy one time protected. We do have trust issues. I think I need to get a sperm count before I accuse anything. This is crazy I am 40 and she is 26. I just dont want to be there thru the pregnancy and do a paternity test and find out Im not the dad. I have already raised a non-biological daughter of hers from birth....but I knew it going in, she is 6years old now....what should I do?
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You've got some really practical advice so far, that ITA with.
Also, consider what you're life will be like if you don't resolve your trust issues and the child IS yours.  And, what will happen to the relationship between you and the 6 year old whom you've "raised from birth."

I became pg 6 yrs ago after my husband's vasectomy, but he had never gotten retested and needed a second vasectomy before his test was "clean".
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If you have had unprotected sex, then you need to be tested for the HIV virus, and also for other STD medical conditions.
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get a sperm count, and if you have any, try a little trust
good luck
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Go to the doctor and get a sperm count.  That could clarify things for you quickly.  If you are deemed entirely infertile, well, you know what's going on.  But, just because you didn't get anyone pregnant for 17 years, does not necessarily mean the vasectomy worked.  That's why it is important to get get your two sperm counts after a vasectomy!  Also, vas deferens have been known to "heal" themselves and grow back together - very rare, but it has happened.  So, you may have some swimmers in there, even though it seems impossible.  Do the sperm count before you make accusations or judgments.
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