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WHAT SHOULD I DO?
MY BOYFRIEND HAS HIT ABOUT 4 TIMES!! HE SLAPPED ME ABOUT 2 TIMES(WHICH I DONT THINK IS TOO SERIOUS), HE PUNCHED ME IN MY JAW ONE TIME(WHICH I DID FIGHT BACK ON), AND HE JUST WAS PUNCHING ME AS HARD AS HE COULD IN MY STOMACH AND RIB AREA, NONSTOP,(WE BOTH WERE JUST GOING AT IT) THE 4th TIME.....I'VE TOOK HIM BACK SLOWLY BUT SURELY ALL TIMES AND HE CLAIMS HE'S SORRY AND HE WONT DO IT AGAIN!! I THINK THATS JUST WHO HE IS BUT I WANT TO KNOW WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT IT AND WHAT I SHOULD DO?
If you don't leave him, he's going to kill you ro made your live "a hell in live". I said this because I traided to help my best friend, her boyfriend ( A doctor, ironic...) puch her, slap her, tell her that she was a nobody, and she still love him. she gets pregnant of him (because he want)... and what she gets?, He got married to another women (when he was still whit her) and have twins whit this women.
And this woman laughed at her, scoffs, he did the same and called her by phone just to insult her. He presented charges by the child, and told the judge that she had the foult of all, almost like she rape him. Luckily my sister who works in "domestic abuse" (in my contry, she made stadistic about that a national level) knew the story because she found her beaten one day, but can't do anything because my friend did not want to press charges until then, luckily now can be quiet with her child.
Bad people don't change just get worse.
And this woman laughed at her, scoffs, he did the same and called her by phone just to insult her. He presented charges by the child, and told the judge that she had the foult of all, almost like she rape him. Luckily my sister who works in "domestic abuse" (in my contry, she made stadistic about that a national level) knew the story because she found her beaten one day, but can't do anything because my friend did not want to press charges until then, luckily now can be quiet with her child.
Bad people don't change just get worse.
Sweetie, nobody has a right to hurt you like that - if you take him back he will do it again and the next time you might wind up in intensive care or worse! You deserve so much better than what he's giving you!! Do some serious soul searching and stay away from him!
Leave him baby girl. Leave him. It's not worth it. Things could get worse. And don't stay because of love. It can blind you. Know your self worth. Don't allow any man to put his hands on you. That is unacceptable. You do not deserve that. Please do yourself and your family a favor and leave before it becomes a bigger issue, because trust me it WILL get worse. Don't let love get in the way of your life. Please keep us posted because I am concerned about you.
Please get away from him now, I know what its like to be abused, and when your confused with low self esteem its hard. just leave.
You r a silly little girl. How can you watch your mother get beaten and still let yourself be beaten. You know wat to do. Do it. Leave the f****in *******.
If i were one of your friends, id lock in my home and not let you out till im sure you wont go back to him. He has no rite to treat you that way. Even if you have a wide mouth or you are very annoying.........hell even if you are sleeping with his brother. He has no rite to treat you that way. If he loved you as much as he says he does would he hit you and bruise you? Would you tear your favourite shirt just because you are angry?
Sweetie leave while you still have the legs to do so.
If i were one of your friends, id lock in my home and not let you out till im sure you wont go back to him. He has no rite to treat you that way. Even if you have a wide mouth or you are very annoying.........hell even if you are sleeping with his brother. He has no rite to treat you that way. If he loved you as much as he says he does would he hit you and bruise you? Would you tear your favourite shirt just because you are angry?
Sweetie leave while you still have the legs to do so.
Seriosuly, I grew up in a abusive family. My Stepfather would DO so much to us and my Mother just ook it. I was about 7 years old and had enough of it. I told the school since my Mom wouldn't do anything. He got arrested, but no more then a day or two (can't really remember). He would say sorry, but just kept doing it. Again I was 12 and told the school again, but this time he broke my nose and had my write that I wouldn't tell my Mom 500 times on paper. But I didn't tell my Mom because she wouldn't do anything, so I went to the school. He got arrested again, held for 2 days (don't understand it) and was released. He was still a angry person, but most of the abuse stopped, until that following fall. He began to rape me. I didn't know what it was, or what he was doing. This went on for 3 years until I was 15. The school was holding a conference about Rape. Until I found out what Rape was, I balled my eyes, ran out of that Auditorium andright into the bathroom. My friends and a couple teachers came up to me. I had to go to the Student councilor and tell her what happened. She gave me two options, to either go home and tell my Mom what happened, or go home with her. I went home and told my Mom.. WOULD of know she wasn't going to listen because of the past. About 6pm that night (Stepfather was home at that time) the police pulled up and grabbed myself and my Mom for questioning. My Stepfather started punching the hood of the car. He knew what it was about. After everything and him being arrested, my Aunts took me to live with them in a different town and he was released. Never went to trial because all the evidence they were after he distroyed while he was out of jail.
What I'm saying is, even when he tells you he's sorry and won't do it again, he will do it again and it will GET WORSE!! At 7 years old I knew it was wrong!! And you're how old?
What I'm saying is, even when he tells you he's sorry and won't do it again, he will do it again and it will GET WORSE!! At 7 years old I knew it was wrong!! And you're how old?
all i have to say is "WOW" all these women are right, i am so greateful i have never been in this situation and understand that you want a baby so bad as you say on your journal .. you need to grow up and love your SELF. sending you so many hugs and lots of good luck !!!! :O)
wow!!! He need Jesus! And you need to realize no woman should be hit on or slapped....I know you have seen all the movies and all the talk shows about ignorant men and crazy woman that put up with it.........If you stay you are crazy!!!! Love aint that good!!!!! Girl you need a reality check because I DONT CARE HOW GOOD HE MAY SAY HE WILL BE OR HOW MUCH HE WILL CHANGE!!!!!!! HE LIED TO YOU BEFORE...........W H Y DO YOU KEEP TAKING THIS MAN BACK..............
Hun, just stay away from him and maybe just take a break from dating. You should definitely leave him because he is being very abusive... maybe report him to the police also.
look i was in a relationship with worse abuse than that. he beat me for 3 1/2 years after only being together for 6 months and he was my best friend for 3 years before we got together. i was hospitalized 3 times. stopped going outside for weeks til my bruises heeled, embarrassed to go around my family and friends. i could go on and on. he had me believing it was all my fault why he did this. that it was my mouth and my actions.but i loved him so much i didnt care, i made every excuse for him. so many women can say oh your crazy for staying with him but these women must not have ever been in an abusive relationship. YOU DONT KNOW AND CANT JUDGE UNTIL YOU HAVE BEEN THERE, YEAH ABUSE IS WRONG BUT SERIOUSLY LIKE I SAID YOU CANT JUDGE IF YOU HAVENT BEEN THERE. i watched my mom go threw 2 years of abuse by her x fiance, he almsot killed her twice,broke ribs and everything and i always said she was crazy and i would never let a man do that to me, but i judged b/c i had never been in that situation i just judged w/ out thinking. my boyfriend kept saying he would change and still beat me just an hour after saying that. but i understand why your staying. your not crazy your in love and you wanna give him a chance i understand completely . ive been there chic. but i am still with my boyfriend. we've been together for 7 years this past september. but after 3 1/2 years of abuse he finally realized what he was doing was wrong. i dont know how, maybe it was the fact that it got so bad that if he just stood up to get off the couch i would flinch and cover my face. but i told him if he really wants to prove he was going to change he needed to go to a therapist or something. well he did and i wasnt allowed in the therapy session but he made them let me in there so i could see for my self that he was finally admitting to someone that he beats me and that he wanted to change. if you really love him and believe he can change then see if he will get help. he wont get in trouble. the therapist had to report him to womens abuse services and he was like i dont care, if i get in trouble i deserve it. but when they called me i explained to them that he was changing but i promised if he continued i would call them. he did counseling for just a month and he hasn't hit me for 3 years. I hope the same can happen for you. i know theres rarely outcomes like mine from abusive relationship stories but you are in my prayers. and you are not alone and you are not crazy babe i promise. and it doesnt necessarily mean you have low self esteem b/c believe me i didnt. i was just so in love and i held on to the moments when he was sweet and we didnt fight. those moments rarely happen but they were worth fighting for to me. im not saying stay with him and im not saying leave him. but if you need someone to talk to email me @ ***@****
He's not going to stop. You can't change him and he won't change for you. Getting pregnant - which you say you want in your journal entry - is not going to make him treat you better. You're only 17 years old. You really want to bring a child into the world with an abusive father? You would put a child at risk of being abused? Get some counseling as soon as possible. Contact your local domestic violence center for assistance.
are you serious or pranking the community because I don't understand why anyone would stay with a person who would be a threat to your life. Sure he is sorry, but he will do it again, especially since he knows he can get away with it (you took him back in), and who knows how much farther he will take it next time.
i think u know what the rational answer is. whatever this relationship is, it doesnt sound healthy. if you keep taking him back he'll know he can get away with it. do u have someone else u can go stay with? maybe suggest he get some help for anger issues and u have a break, if nothingelse.
You are NUTS! Your problem is NOT your jerk boyfriend putting his hands on you! YOUR problem is YOUR Self ESTEEM! What is it about you that makes you think your not deserving of a good guy?? And YOU KNOW that IS NOT a good guy!!!! There is no such thing as a "fare" fight when it comes to men and woman!!!! I could say "dump the jerk!" But the REAL solution is go get some therapy and figure out what you TRUE value as a human being is!!!!!!! And then when you have the confidence, honey you can rule the world!! -And leave him in the dust...which is always fun when the person deserves it!! Your BEST revenge on him is to move on and find someone better! Otherwise it will just get worse!!
*you wont be able to write us from the grave and ask why you let your boyfriend kill you!!!
And dont say "he would never do that"...thats what all abused woman say!!!!!
Good Luck!
*you wont be able to write us from the grave and ask why you let your boyfriend kill you!!!
And dont say "he would never do that"...thats what all abused woman say!!!!!
Good Luck!
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