Between early August and early October I was sleeping with an above average guy (10.5...yeah) and he wasn't big on foreplay. The majority of the time it was last minute and I wasn't wet, so there was usually a bit of blood, UTI's and soreness afterwards. During the last time with him I was on my period (at the end), and it was heavy and didn't stop for 2 months. I went to the obgyn and had all the STD tests, **returned negative**, and showed no signs as to why I was bleeding, no swelling or redness or discharge other than blood. After the bleeding stopped early December, I was checking down there and noticed my urethra was open a lot more than normal. It went from barely being able to feel the hole, to almost being able to push the tip of my pinkie finger in there. I hadn't been sexually active since him, didn't use tampons or insert anything, and haven't done anything that would cause that...
I'm not sure the bleeding is related (it wasn't period blood, not thick), but it's since stabilized. I get super frequent UTI's (severe constant pain for 2-3 days, urinating makes it worse), and severe pain during sex even with lube.
Any thoughts on why, after 2 months (if it was torn by him), it wouldn't return to normal? Or any other causes that would expand the opening? How about tips on minimizing pain during intercourse besides using lube and drinking cranberry juice?
Much appreciated :)
When in pain, important to get medical assistance.
Typically the vagina will stretch for a large penis (we do, afterall, have babies out of that same hole). His lack of care in lovemaking is something I'd not put up with. :>) Just woman to woman. Make sure the man in your life takes his time and considers you and how it feels to you along the way.
good luck