discomfort/pain while fingering

[teff]

when i finger, or get fingered, i only ever use one finger. I havent had sex before, and i just feel discomfort that increases when i get fingered. Sometimes its slight pain. But it never feels good, and i get no pleasure out of it. Me and my boyfriend dont understand why this happens, and he said that i should feel pleasure not pain. He also said there might be a problem, and now im worried. Serious answers please.

[minchka]

I too feel no pleasure and even discomfort from being fingered. Unfortunately, you and I were dealt a ****** hand in the vagina dpt. Some women get little to no pleasure through just vaginal stimulation. If clit vibrators didn't exist I would never be able to have an orgasm.

[xxx vixen xxx]

also too ad to mine my boyfriend and i dont have sex that often as my daddy bless him still makes him sleep in a different room and is very strick still with boyfriends! cpuld it be that i need to be proporly broken in to discover my g-spot???

[xxx vixen xxx]

i too feel no pleasure what so ever when i am fingered! its doesnt hurt but somtimes it is a little uncomftable! i am 19 and i am guessing that i just havent discovered my g-spot yet! it could be that i am not entirely comftable with my partner so i am tensing up! i have vague memories of having sex with my boyfriend when i was drunk and i can remember that it felt good! whereas normally it doesnt feel godd and i never orgasm! could this be because i am uncomftable or am is there somthing wrong with me ?? many thanks xx

[sophie22]

right well i totally understand how you feel. i first had sex when i was 16, but had done a few bits like you have before that. until i was 19, everytime i tried to have sex it was so painful, i would even have to stop, and fingering, well i cant say i often find it pleasurable anyway, unless its clitoral and im doing it myself or instructing my boyfriend (which i dont often do as its rather awkward) and do you know why i found it all painful? it was totally all in my head, i was scared, my friend when we were at school had sex for the first time, she was the first on ein our group of friends to do so, unfortunately her hymen didnt come away completely and she ended up in hospital bleeding heavily. i was scared the same thing would happen to me so i was so tense, i feel like the first time i had proper sex was when i was with my current boyfriend at about 19 and that was only because i just thoughtto myself, "okay ive had enough of this, i have to relax, thats all thats stopping me" and gradually, once i felt it had gotten easier and easier each time it just went away.
but yes you could have an infection like thrush or urine infection, i currently do and sex is impossibly painful. so go to your GP and just say you want to make sure everything is okay down there and get a check up or just have a chat with them. im sure everything is fine so dont worry about what your boyfriend says, trust me, most women dont enjoy being 'fingered' maybe experiment and try see what else works and what doesnt
hope this helps

[sparkeler]

You have to find your g spot.  I personally dont love to get fingered and i dont pleasure myself with my fingers.  I dont think thats at all abnormal.  He or you could try rubbing around the clitoris, usually this is where woman find stimulation.

[kristiemichelle]

if u have access to a doc, go see one, just to make sure nothing is wrong.  it could be an infection, and women get them all the time, some infections for no reason at all.....the joys of being female.  U could also be so nervous about it that you tighten up, causing some pain.  try lubricating jelly and see if extra lub helps, if not, go see a doc just to be on the safe side....good luck