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how do i enjoy anal sex??? ADVISE PLS!!

I posted this in another group, but i really need advise…
my bf keeps wanting about anal penetration…
I understand that it is tighter and feels better for him.. but it is not pleasurable for me at all… is this normal??? When aroused, it is not too painful, just uncomfortable (after a couple minutes)
Do women enjoy anal sex? Is there something wrong with me? Are we doing it wrong?
is it possible to do it in a way that is more enjoyable (other rhan the lube and arousal)???
I want to give him what he wants and like what he likes… is this even possible?
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The only person who can say what feels good fir you is you.....i have only suggested things that allow me to occasionally enjoy anal with my bf but you have to do what feels good and right and comfortable to you not someone else even if that means saying no altogether.....you are not required to sacrifice your comfort and happiness to prove your love and if he expects you to or doesnt respect your decision move on another man will......take care of you and your body first
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1925717 tn?1333133020
Pls don't give anal sex to your boyfriend, he his not worth all of this. First the anal part is not for sex, so it is totally wrong, ans secondly, the anal part is not as elastic as the vigina, the moment he penetrates and he does it continually, he expands that placd and trust me girl, you dont want that place to be expanded, you cant handle thr discharges that are gonna  be coming out from there. Even your so called boyfriend will run away from you after he has destroyed the place. And thirdly, the anal part has more bacteria, which when he penetrates the anal and also penetrates ur vagina at simultaneously, he's gonns cause you infection which is bad for a woman, it coukd lead to fertility problem in the future, even ireggular menstration which u dont want to have (trust me).
So tell, your anal part is not for sex and also tell him he should let someone else try to penetrate his own anal part if he will like it or enjoh it. I tell you girl, boys are not worth all the stress. Think twice ir even trice before you make any silly decision ok.
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The best orgasms I’ve ever had have been from anal, I don’t know who told you guys that it doesn’t/can’t lead to orgasm for women, but that is completely false. I was super afraid to try it, and had had a few bad experiences with previous partners trying. But this one guy I dated was really into it and promised me he’d show me the way if i was willing to trust him. He rubbed my body and massaged my thighs and hips for a little bit, then went down on me and made me orgasm like 4 or 5 times, then he kept me on my back in standard missionary position, and entered me from on top, just like you would with vaginal sex in missionary but you just use the other hole. It was uncomfortable and embarrassing feeling for the first minute or so but he just kept kissing me and saying hot stuff until he was all the way in, very slowly entering me. It wasn’t painful but just uncomfortable  and freaky feeling. Usually most of the discomfort you feel is because you are freaking out or scared which can easily cause you to tense up as well as ruin your mindset. I just remind myself that I love and trust the person and that they desire me in this way, so they aren’t judging me or thinking anything other than how hot it is. He held still until I stopped shaking and relaxed. Then he started to move inside me and the moment he started to pull back out my whole body was instantly overcome by wave after wave of endless mind bending head to toe ecstasy. Missionary anal is the way to go for beginners, and it’s nice if you’re nervous because he can hold you and reassure you.
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973741 tn?1342342773
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I think you give it a try and it's absolutely A OK if you don't like it.  Many women do not enjoy anal sex at all and you should never do it just to please your partner.  That goes for anything sexually.  It should be mutually enjoyed for true intimacy or it is really letting yourself be used as a tool for someone else's satisfaction rather than love making.  Agree about the hygiene aspect, make sure to clean the penis thoroughly so as not to move bacteria around from the anus and end up with a UTI.  good luck, do what you enjoy!!
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I enjoy anal sex, it is very intimate, and it can feel good. The best way for me has been after I am extremely turned on by foreplay it vaginal/ oral sex. Then use lube. Also, don't do it doggie style, that is painful, do it in a spoon position. You have a little more control with your body that way too. When done right, it can be awesome. Do not go from anal to vag tho without a quick cleanup, to avoid yeast infections.
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so does it feel good that way???
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a big part of intimacy is embracing vulnerability… pushing the line to reach more vulnerable situations.
I view anal sex as another step on the ladder of sexual vulnerability/intimacy.


penetration is not just about man & women, or skin to skin….
There is also something els going on that is extremely intimate.,
When penetrated sexually by another person (penis, dildo, finger, etc….), you are allowing someone to enter you in a very sensual way (even if it is with a dildo)… the other person is controlling how fast, hard, deep, etc…
It allows you to be vulnerable and trusting with that person…. Knowing that person can hurt you (by being too rough).. but they dont… the penetrator has power over you in the moment,,,
personally speaking… it is that intimacy that makes penetration pleasurable… (its not physically pleasurable without that connection)…
In that situation where you are inviting to be penetrated… embracing your own vulnerability, trusting… etc…  On the other side of it, the penetrator has the power, has been invited to enter, has to be gentle and follow the reactions and body language… feeling a connectedness from doing "it" to the other… rather than with the other (for a lack of words)…
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I feel the same....it is uncomfortable at best but I want my man to enjoy himself....you can ask him to get you off first or stimulate you manually while getting anal or have him use a dildo to give you vaginal pleasure while he gets anal....even a combination its up to you but I agree that anal is only pleasurable for men so be safe and good luck
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134578 tn?1693250592
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I've heard some women like it, but it has never been high on my list.  For one thing, it doesn't lead to orgasm (for a woman), so it's sort of a one-way street.

Be sure, if you are having anal sex, to use condoms.  Put on a fresh condom before putting the penis in the vagina.  You don't want transmission of fecal material into your vagina, which stays clean pretty naturally, otherwise.
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